Comments | _marriedlife_: In honor of <strong class="lj-user"><a href="/read/user/weddingplans">weddingplans</a></strong>

jerseylawyer in _marriedlife_

In honor of weddingplans

Oct 05, 2006 08:40

EDIT: put the location where the wedding reception was held- I think that makes the most sense for this poll.

Poll wedding cost

of course, don't fill out the poll if it offends you, I know money is a touchy subject with some people...

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bellasmommy October 5 2006, 13:18:55 UTC

We had our reception in the atrium of a beautiful historical society. It was very classy and "different" than the regular reception venues in our area.

We also scrimped in some areas to splurge in others. I got my dress very cheaply (though not on purpose; the place I got it from went bankrupt and CLOSED before i got my dress, and I got the dress at cost from the manufacturer, luckily, it didn't need any alterations), I made my own veil by getting a veil off of eBay (handmade) and attaching it to a beautiful tiara, we used seasonal flowers (gerbera daisies), and I did the centerpieces, bubbles, and favors myself. The photography, limo, wine (no open bar) and DJ were gifted to us, and therefore we were able to afford the best caterer in town. Oh, and my sister-in-law is a pastry chef and made our cake for us. :) It helps to know people with connections. :-D

Damn, when I read that, I had a kickass wedding.

jerseylawyer October 5 2006, 13:25:42 UTC

it sounds so gorgeous!!

technically, 2/3 of my wedding was gifted to us by both sets of parents. We would have had a much more scaled down wedding if we didn't receive the money from our parents.

nothingmuch October 5 2006, 13:20:51 UTC

I think it's kind of silly to spend too much money on a wedding because, in my experience as a wedding guest, most of that stuff won't even be remembered. The kind of flowers you had, the linens, the color of the napkins, the party favors, and all the other little tiny details that some brides are extremely picky about, most guests really don't care about at all. I can't even remember what any of my cousins'/friends' gowns looked like, because they're all just poofy white clouds to me.

I just got married at the JP, and had a party at home with barbecue, cake, booze and fireworks. :)

jerseylawyer October 5 2006, 13:24:28 UTC

but the bride will remember, and it will live on in pictures. If its important to her and they can afford it, I dont see anything wrong with the big wedding.

nothingmuch October 5 2006, 13:26:54 UTC

*shrug*

Pictures can be lost. What's important is the marriage, not the wedding.

jerseylawyer October 5 2006, 13:28:24 UTC

pictures cant be lost if they are uploaded to the internet ;)

but I get your point. Obviously the marriage is more important-- but if one has the money, I don't see why the wedding can't be what the bride wants it to be either- if money isn't an issue.

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cottonmanifesto October 5 2006, 13:21:48 UTC

We got married in a vegas drive-through ($40). My father in law paid for air fare and my dad paid for pool (yeah, the place where we had dinner reservations didn't open 'til about an hour after the ceremony was over so we all went and played a few games of pool), and the dinner afterwards. My dad also paid for our hotel. So, um, $40.

wildflower_tsw October 7 2006, 01:38:38 UTC

drive through... nice. :) A woman I work with did that too! Love hearing those kinds of stories

cottonmanifesto October 7 2006, 13:47:59 UTC

We did it on bikes - so fun! :)

empressmiaka October 5 2006, 13:27:27 UTC

I got married in Jamaica, so my honeymoon WAS the cost of my wedding. lol

I *wish* someone I know would do a destination wedding. Every one of our guests had an awesome time, and we have some AWESOME pictures.

jerseylawyer October 5 2006, 13:29:05 UTC

We wanted to do a DW but ALL parents overruled it.... :(

empressmiaka October 5 2006, 13:30:50 UTC

I didn't even want to invite the parents. lol My dad threw a fit because he didn't want to pay to go, I told him that if he didn't want to, not to go. He ended up going and loving it, but including the relatives and how "offended" everyone in my family can get, was a huge hassle.

jerseylawyer October 5 2006, 13:48:32 UTC

we are both super close to our parents-- there is no way we'd want to get married without them there. So they said no DW, we didnt do it.

BUT we can always renew our vows on a beach....

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wavechaser October 5 2006, 13:32:37 UTC

I did most of everything for my wedding and spent about $8500. My cousin had this HUGE wedding, spent about $50,000 and her parents took out a second mortgage for it. That's no way to do a wedding. Spend it if you got it, but a wedding isn't worth a second mortgage for.