I've had dreams that were so good I was utterly devastated when I woke up. It's especially comforting when the dreams give you what you want the most, without any of the ramifications that would occur IRL were it to happen.
I personally think rushing to get married is a bad idea, but I also acknowledge that I take a lot of the pressure off of myself by being okay with shacking up and premarital sex and a lot of that. I think if it's going to work out, it will, regardless of whether or not you are "married", but I also am not holding back on relationship intensity until that point. So the gains are less.
the thing is, it really doesn't feel like rushing. with deven, yeah there was an element of rushing, and element of "well this is what you do next when you're bored with just being bf/gf" and an element of "well now we're in a position where we *could*... so let's do it".
there is no rushing now. it's more like, well we're pretty much *there*, but we still have to maintain separate households, etc. and it's like, this is so annoying it borders on unnatural. it's jarring.
That's why I sleep too much, I have dreams that I don't want to leave or i get pulled in to far and almost can't leave.
If you want to get married get married. It's not going to really change anything except what you call each other, and how poeple see you and the whole in the eyes of god thing. But honestly it sounds like you want a wedding more than a marraige....*shrug* Good luck regardless, I agree with lauren, if it's gonna work then it will. But i'm not really that romantic and what not lol
technically. I choose to abide by certain strictures imposed by the way my family and my religion operate, so I suppose you could argue that *I* am "making" it complicated because I could merely not choose to abide by them
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I personally think rushing to get married is a bad idea, but I also acknowledge that I take a lot of the pressure off of myself by being okay with shacking up and premarital sex and a lot of that. I think if it's going to work out, it will, regardless of whether or not you are "married", but I also am not holding back on relationship intensity until that point. So the gains are less.
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there is no rushing now. it's more like, well we're pretty much *there*, but we still have to maintain separate households, etc. and it's like, this is so annoying it borders on unnatural. it's jarring.
I'm not really sure how to express the feeling.
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If you want to get married get married. It's not going to really change anything except what you call each other, and how poeple see you and the whole in the eyes of god thing. But honestly it sounds like you want a wedding more than a marraige....*shrug* Good luck regardless, I agree with lauren, if it's gonna work then it will. But i'm not really that romantic and what not lol
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