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[noclearname]

I'm nearly 35 years old and I'm a virgin. I've never seen a real girl naked, I've never kissed a girl and I've never even held hands with a girl.

Having been told on many occasions that I'm a 'nice guy', I can only assume that I'm desperately ugly.

I make myself sick. I can't even look at my face in the mirror any more.

Comments

[planet_x_zero]

Many incredibly ugly people are married and with kids too, and I doubt you're desperately ugly. You just need a little coaching on interacting with women.

[noclearname]

You might be right, though I work in a call centre surrounded with women so I interact with them every day, and I spent my teenage years working in a womenswear department. I'm doing something wrong but I don't know what it is. I guess it's not important, it just gets to me sometimes.

[couri]

Are you sure you're not only of those incredibly shy people? (If you were incredibly ugly, I'm sure you'd know it, and anyway, incredibly ugly people do have relationships. You should see what my ex looks like).

My younger brother was one of those incredibly shy people who was too nervous to approach women, so they'd approach him. Here's an interesting equation: because he ended up being approached (and they were hideously ugly, trust me, inside and out, but he still saw something lovable in them, probably because he's nice) he's had three relationships, all with psychos, one of whom lied about being on the pill and now I have a six-year-old nephew.
Having a nephew is fine. The fact she spent all the child-support on her partner's heroin addiction is not so good. Also, she's up on child endangerment charges. We're concerned.

I'd tend to think that planet_x_zero is right

[d4yil0stmyvoice]

It has to do with how you interact with them. Now, I don't know you so I can't exactly say what you are doing wrong. However, even the ugliest people, inside and out, find love. I wouldn't say it has anything to do with your appearance. It's obvious in your post that you aren't confident. A lack of self confidence can easily turn a girl away. Same thing with someone who has too much confidence. You just need to find a good balance, and also, learn how to love yourself. You can't love the person you are with if you don't truly love yourself.
As far as how you interact with girls, do you have any close female friends? Have them give you some tips.