On internet 'dating'
a few things that stick in my craw:
when you point out in your profile that you're shy and unlikely to start a conversation, when someone attempts to start one with you (not in person, via dating site message), respond. If you dont, that doesnt make you shy, it makes you a dick...man or woman. And I'm probably a bitch for saying so. Even if you're not interested, you can respond with a simple "Sorry, not interested". Would you flat out ignore someone if this was face to face? Probably not. Now, I'm not saying this is for everyone, only those who intentionally pointed out that they were shy.
that being said, on the flipside, dont be a creeper or overeager. Keep it simple, try to keep it natural sounding. Otherwise too much info too soon is a turnoff. Again, you dont walk up to someone in person and say "Hi my name is blah and I like long walks on the beach and the sound of rain. and i work in management and i like basketball and movies, wanna go to a movie?" in a run on sentence.
And if you're too lazy to spell a three letter word, as in U vs YOU, I'm already done with you. Dont waste your time. I'm not going to judge if you misspell a few words or dont have the punctuation and grammar exactly right. But at least put in a little effort and pretend, or use spell check, "u wanna chat?" does not make me want to chat but maybe "Hi, I'm blah. would you like to chat?" does.
and this isnt dating, it's shopping.
when you point out in your profile that you're shy and unlikely to start a conversation, when someone attempts to start one with you (not in person, via dating site message), respond. If you dont, that doesnt make you shy, it makes you a dick...man or woman. And I'm probably a bitch for saying so. Even if you're not interested, you can respond with a simple "Sorry, not interested". Would you flat out ignore someone if this was face to face? Probably not. Now, I'm not saying this is for everyone, only those who intentionally pointed out that they were shy.
that being said, on the flipside, dont be a creeper or overeager. Keep it simple, try to keep it natural sounding. Otherwise too much info too soon is a turnoff. Again, you dont walk up to someone in person and say "Hi my name is blah and I like long walks on the beach and the sound of rain. and i work in management and i like basketball and movies, wanna go to a movie?" in a run on sentence.
And if you're too lazy to spell a three letter word, as in U vs YOU, I'm already done with you. Dont waste your time. I'm not going to judge if you misspell a few words or dont have the punctuation and grammar exactly right. But at least put in a little effort and pretend, or use spell check, "u wanna chat?" does not make me want to chat but maybe "Hi, I'm blah. would you like to chat?" does.
and this isnt dating, it's shopping.