Couple of Questions
1. When is too early to book your honeymoon? Ryan and I want to stay at a very specific Disney resort (the one that I worked at during my internships), and want to make certain that we book early enough to get one of the few Cast Member discounted rooms. Would 9 1/2 months prior to the honeymoon be too far in advance? I know that most airlines don't let you book more than 6 months before, I'm just not certain about hotels.
2. We want to keep our guest list for the reception to 150 people or less. I've told my parents several times that I don't really want to invite a lot of the extended family because I don't know them real well. They say that they will support what I want, but my mom keeps mentioning inviting most (if not all) of her first cousins, especially if we invite some of their parents/aunts and uncles (aka siblings of my grandparents). She says that some of my great-aunts would be hurt/offended if I invite them but not their children. I haven't seen most of my mom's cousins and extended family on that side in about 6 years, if not longer. My dad is also saying that his parents, especially grandma, would likely throw a fit if certain extended family on that side is not invited. Also, Ryan has a really large family (parents were both the youngest of 6 and 7). Basically the question is - is it better to avoid family drama and invite everyone (even if we're fairly certain that they wouldn't come anyways), or to stick with the close family and friends that I want to be there?
3. How do you deal with family members who automatically assume that their children get to be part of the wedding party? My youngest cousin (and only cousin of my father's side of the family) will be 7 1/2 at the time of my wedding. When I mentioned at Christmas that Ryan *might* be the one, her mother immediately jumped in and said "Oh, Emily, you'll get to be a flower girl!" I've never really wanted to have a flower girl or ring bearer, because that would create too much hassle since children are so unpredictable. Ryan and I have since decided that Emily can hand out the bubbles, but haven't shared that information with her or her parents. What would be the best way to diplomatically handle this situation?
Sorry for the long questions. I've just been really stressed about these issues, and it's starting to really affect my mood.
2. We want to keep our guest list for the reception to 150 people or less. I've told my parents several times that I don't really want to invite a lot of the extended family because I don't know them real well. They say that they will support what I want, but my mom keeps mentioning inviting most (if not all) of her first cousins, especially if we invite some of their parents/aunts and uncles (aka siblings of my grandparents). She says that some of my great-aunts would be hurt/offended if I invite them but not their children. I haven't seen most of my mom's cousins and extended family on that side in about 6 years, if not longer. My dad is also saying that his parents, especially grandma, would likely throw a fit if certain extended family on that side is not invited. Also, Ryan has a really large family (parents were both the youngest of 6 and 7). Basically the question is - is it better to avoid family drama and invite everyone (even if we're fairly certain that they wouldn't come anyways), or to stick with the close family and friends that I want to be there?
3. How do you deal with family members who automatically assume that their children get to be part of the wedding party? My youngest cousin (and only cousin of my father's side of the family) will be 7 1/2 at the time of my wedding. When I mentioned at Christmas that Ryan *might* be the one, her mother immediately jumped in and said "Oh, Emily, you'll get to be a flower girl!" I've never really wanted to have a flower girl or ring bearer, because that would create too much hassle since children are so unpredictable. Ryan and I have since decided that Emily can hand out the bubbles, but haven't shared that information with her or her parents. What would be the best way to diplomatically handle this situation?
Sorry for the long questions. I've just been really stressed about these issues, and it's starting to really affect my mood.