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wade_scott

Eternal Brain Rot

May 18, 2007 10:37

Training men is like herding cats.

I know, I know, I sound like one of those bitter women who hate men who really just need a good fuck (according to every man when a woman says she's fed up with the male half of the species). But in all honesty, I hate trying to train a man to do my job. Why? Because they already know what they're doing and they ( Read more... )

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harmony_bites May 19 2007, 02:42:56 UTC

I've never noticed such a gender gap in trainability. Maybe men are more bidable in New York? Maybe that's why I'm the only person in my f-list who doesn't hate men (other than Snape, and in your case, Neville.)

wade_scott May 19 2007, 06:03:16 UTC

Maybe that's why I'm the only person in my f-list who doesn't hate men

*sighs* I knew someone would say that. I don't think I hate men as much as I'm so very tired of being beaten down by them. If it was overt, I could fight back. But it's so subtle--like being ignored while I'm trying to train someone--that I just don't know how to squash it.

As I said, I don't know what the cause of the issue is. I have had many male co-workers that are perfectly fine. But the ones that aren't--well, it gets exhausting quickly.

harmony_bites May 19 2007, 08:55:33 UTC

I'm (mostly) teasing you.

But seriously, it seems a pattern in HP (or maybe among SSHG people) that a higher than ordinary amount of people have problems with men--I don't mean on an existential basis--that they have a problem with MEN but...

I know at least two women on my f-list who have been battered by their husbands. I know women on my f-list who talk about getting their husband's "permission" to go on a trip, spend money, etc.

I never saw the like in Trek--or my RL acquaintances--seriously.

wade_scott May 19 2007, 16:22:05 UTC

My parents' marriage was like that. Lots of abuse and control. It makes me angry to witness ( ... )

harmony_bites May 19 2007, 18:01:22 UTC

Which strikes me as ironic--Canon Snape is NOT a nice guy. In fact, he can be considered (by me) as downright abusive... So why do downtrodden women sail on this 'ship? You would think that they would abhor this behavior. (Granted, I don't know the identities of your friends mentioned. I don't know what kind of stories they write or read. I'm just making a generalization based on the Austen-like parallels rampant in SS/HG.)

Except I think it's not Austen that's the best example in this case. Ever read Pride and Prejudice? Aristo aside, it does have paralells for how some of us see Snape and how he and Hermione might relate. Darcy isn't an abuser, and Lizzie is no doormat who transforms him through love.

First, there's the prejudice part--and that's on her part. Darcy seems arrogant, abusive of his power, vain and proud of his heritige. There is a bit of that last--and when Darcy asks Lizzie to marry him she turns him down. That causes him to write her a letter so we see things from his POV, and that causes us to realize there are ( ... )

wade_scott May 19 2007, 18:59:16 UTC

Incidentally, I've read quite a bit outside my OTP.

I know you have. You read a LOT of fanfic. I got tired of the chaff and just wait for you to throw out the wheat. :)

You won't find rapefic in Ron/Hermione--just doesn't exist that I've seen. It's also rarely found in ships that don't include Snape. In ships that do include him (Snape/Hermion, Snarry) it's common.That's what I find interesting, really. It's another power dynamic. I almost grieve for the writers of rapefic and those that eat it up ( ... )

harmony_bites May 19 2007, 19:37:31 UTC

I adore Austen--many SSHGers do, but I don't think they're the ones that read or write Rapefic or the more abusive Snapes. bambu345 and snarkywench_64 are two examples of big Austen fans--in fact, the love of Austen *is* striking in the ship, again, far more common than I found in Trek or my general acquaintance ( ... )

wade_scott May 19 2007, 19:57:38 UTC

I think I fall into the category of the Hermione writer. What brought me into the ship initially was the concept that they share a common history--both had childhoods lost to the fight against Voldemort. Hermione is fortunate, because she will leave the actual war in her childhood (because really, what's the point of seven books if Voldemort isn't defeated?). Snape has had to carry that into adulthood. And like Sirius, whose development was arrested upon his admittance to Azkaban, I think Snape is stuck at the point between becoming a Death Eater and Dumbledore's Man (whatever timeline those events follow) and that's what we see of him during Harry's time at Hogwarts. A lot of the fun for me in re-reading the series after HBP is piecing out what is Snape's "spy-face" and what is simply baggage from his own fractured childhood. I see Voldemort's defeat as Snape's "get out of jail" card, when he can start to heal and become ( ... )

harmony_bites May 20 2007, 03:21:48 UTC

What brought me into the ship initially was the concept that they share a common history--both had childhoods lost to the fight against Voldemort.

Ever read Dyce's Survivors? Because part of what I found so striking in that story is how she made a case for Snape and Hermione carrying similar scars, and not just from the war. She drew paralells from Hermione of the first book and Snape of the Marauder era. Hermione has learned just how harrased and unpopular Snape was at Hogwarts, and remembering her own early misery, of Ron calling her "a horror" she feels that with Snape, there but for the grace of...the Troll ( ... )

wade_scott May 20 2007, 05:12:18 UTC

I think that about sums me up. I all the characters have major flaws (except Neville, of course! :D), making them human and relatable. That's what's fun about playing with them.

I'm glad to say that I'm not quite to the Severitus end of the spectrum. Harry does carry old prejudices and has a lot to learn about humility, as well. I think that's why I liked OotP--because when it boils right down to it, Harry and Snape are so eerily similar. I'm looking forward to some sort of reconciliation between the two in DH.

harmony_bites May 20 2007, 06:55:36 UTC

Harry and Snape are so eerily similar. I'm looking forward to some sort of reconciliation between the two in DH.

I'd agree--and because I both see that and like Harry and Snape, and mostly like, sometimes love the Hermione/Snape ship, I wish I could see a SSHG that had that too--one in which, unlike in Severitus, both meet the other half way--that both could see something in each to admire while admiting to themselves and each other their own contribution. I hate how almost all SSHG reduce Harry to some idiot--or a vicious prat that conspire to torture or kill Snape ( ... )

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