love, sex, and lasting relationships pt2
ok, so the first part i talked about in regards to this book is the view that the world has presented us in reference to relationships, in finding "the one"...now this other part, i'm a little more wary of, because a lot of people will just refuse to read the moment it says God anywhere...the book does a much better job of setting it up so that you will want to read it regardless of whether or not you believe in God...
before he went into God's steps...he talked more about how most people approach finding real love...and he drew an upside-down pyramid and at the bottom is physical, then above that is emotional, then social, psychological, spiritual...and the path he drew was starting at physical and then an arrow up...yeah, that pretty much sounds like the approach most people take...100% physical at first and it's often driven by that infatuation i talked about yesterday...
the physical phase, i think that's pretty self-explanatory...you see the one and "if sparks fly, we move ahead. If not, we keep looking"....
after that comes the emotional phase...the phase where you're falling in love and all that infatuation...
"This phase, precariously balanced ona physical foundation, also tends to be filled with mood swings. Wild adoration can be followed almost instantaneously by insane jealousy. Because so little is actually known about the other person, statements he makes or actions she does are interpreted by the other person's own experiences and attitudes."
actually, i was partially in this phase a few weeks ago i think...because i still remember how i felt when i saw that picture of madison kissing that guy...although at first i just laughed and didn't think much of it...then the moment the other guys at the table started going ohhh noo, who does this girl think she is...i started to become jealous really easily...just cuz she kissed a guy on the cheek, i mean, i don't know her well enough to make any kind of judgement and be jealous...but i let my emotions be overtaken by others' emotions rather than keeping true to myself...but what i mean to say is that yeah, i became filled with all that jealousy, when i barely know the girl, because i based it on my past experiences...you don't base it on something like that, bad idea
i'll do this in short bursts and eventually make one huge entry with everything put together, so that people will read this hopefully and take something out of it
before he went into God's steps...he talked more about how most people approach finding real love...and he drew an upside-down pyramid and at the bottom is physical, then above that is emotional, then social, psychological, spiritual...and the path he drew was starting at physical and then an arrow up...yeah, that pretty much sounds like the approach most people take...100% physical at first and it's often driven by that infatuation i talked about yesterday...
the physical phase, i think that's pretty self-explanatory...you see the one and "if sparks fly, we move ahead. If not, we keep looking"....
after that comes the emotional phase...the phase where you're falling in love and all that infatuation...
"This phase, precariously balanced ona physical foundation, also tends to be filled with mood swings. Wild adoration can be followed almost instantaneously by insane jealousy. Because so little is actually known about the other person, statements he makes or actions she does are interpreted by the other person's own experiences and attitudes."
actually, i was partially in this phase a few weeks ago i think...because i still remember how i felt when i saw that picture of madison kissing that guy...although at first i just laughed and didn't think much of it...then the moment the other guys at the table started going ohhh noo, who does this girl think she is...i started to become jealous really easily...just cuz she kissed a guy on the cheek, i mean, i don't know her well enough to make any kind of judgement and be jealous...but i let my emotions be overtaken by others' emotions rather than keeping true to myself...but what i mean to say is that yeah, i became filled with all that jealousy, when i barely know the girl, because i based it on my past experiences...you don't base it on something like that, bad idea
i'll do this in short bursts and eventually make one huge entry with everything put together, so that people will read this hopefully and take something out of it