Here I go again!
Everyone claims males and females are way different. Neither sex can ever seem to "understand" the opposite. So, what's the deal?
Well, the internet is a great way to analyse a large group of people at a single time, without them knowing you're doing so. I've certainly found a high amount of things out, about both sexes.
I'd like to note that this is general observation of the large masses. This information is mostly applicable to the "average" member of each sex between the ages of 15 and 35. You may not be average, and this may not reflect how you act, or feel.
Once again, if anyone bothers to read all this crap I write, my repect goes out to you.
Males tend to openly claim they are looking for a sexually attractive partner, while a female will normally say "Well, hes hot, but I like him for xxx reason" or "I'm looking for my soul mate". Now one might think that this is because females are perhaps looking for more in a partner, but I find this to not be the case. I do not believe males and females are any different in what they are looking for in a partner. A female will openly choose the more attractive of two men 90% of the time, dispite other qualitys the less attractive one has. (This is not to say one of the two is ugly and one is highly attractive. Both men could be "good looking", one would just be so to a higher degree.) This is assuming that both men are on equal grounds with the female intellectually.
This is no different than how a man will normally act. Both sexes are willing to sacrafice personality for looks to a major degree. There should be no confusion here.
So, now that a partner has actually been found, what is each looking for in a relationship?
Men want someone they can show off. A man wants someone that can impress his friends, and everyone else. Normally, a guy will believe that the quality of the looks of his girlfriend reflects upon how successful he is.
Females want someone that makes them feel secure. Females tend to be unstable and unsure. They want someone strong, and someone who they feel can hold his own weight, and hers too. Females are very proud when they feel they've found such a partner, and also enjoy telling stories of how great he is to all their friends. A female feels that the success of their man reflects upon them.
So now we've reached this ponint. Males want a prize, and females aim to be that prize. How can I make such an assertion? Consider this:
The average female spends a large amount of time improving her looks. This is done by styling hair, buying fancy and/or revealing clothing, applying makeup, ect. A female will rarely be agressive in finding a partner, and is much more likey to sit back and wait to be impressed, or wait to be approched.
A male will work out. He will aim to improve his abilites, physically and socically, much like you would while preparing for any sporting event. Men compete for females attention in such ways as having the fastest car, the most money, being the strongest, or even having the wittiest pickup methods.
So now we have a bond between two people that is formed of sportsman and trophy. If a guy feels his trophy is no longer the shiniest, if he grows tired of it, or if he finds a clearly better one, he will normally sever this bond.
If a female feels the male is no longer polishing her enough (providing her with gifts, taking her out to dinner, ect), or feels another male is obviously more worthy of her, she will leave him.
I've reached the conclusion that the divorce rates are so high, that males and females do not understand eachother, and that two people rarely last, because of this basic analysis.
We harbor very little interest in our mates as a whole. After we have won or been won, we are statisfied with our victory, and no longer work to improve. If you truely find that you want to know what your partnet is thinking, why they act like they act, you have to ask them. You can't expect an obvious explaination from their actions.
What we all want, what we all need, is someone who can be an extension of ourselves. On an emotional level, each and every one of us feels empty. It is believed that by finding someone who is truely your "soul mate", such a void is filled.
I don't believe that any amount of possessions can fill this void. If your relationship with your partner is one of material possession, one of what the eye can see, how can happiness possibly be expected out of it? Is it possible that we've convinced ourselves we can find happiness and peace within emptiness?
It would be pitiful indeed.
Well, the internet is a great way to analyse a large group of people at a single time, without them knowing you're doing so. I've certainly found a high amount of things out, about both sexes.
I'd like to note that this is general observation of the large masses. This information is mostly applicable to the "average" member of each sex between the ages of 15 and 35. You may not be average, and this may not reflect how you act, or feel.
Once again, if anyone bothers to read all this crap I write, my repect goes out to you.
Males tend to openly claim they are looking for a sexually attractive partner, while a female will normally say "Well, hes hot, but I like him for xxx reason" or "I'm looking for my soul mate". Now one might think that this is because females are perhaps looking for more in a partner, but I find this to not be the case. I do not believe males and females are any different in what they are looking for in a partner. A female will openly choose the more attractive of two men 90% of the time, dispite other qualitys the less attractive one has. (This is not to say one of the two is ugly and one is highly attractive. Both men could be "good looking", one would just be so to a higher degree.) This is assuming that both men are on equal grounds with the female intellectually.
This is no different than how a man will normally act. Both sexes are willing to sacrafice personality for looks to a major degree. There should be no confusion here.
So, now that a partner has actually been found, what is each looking for in a relationship?
Men want someone they can show off. A man wants someone that can impress his friends, and everyone else. Normally, a guy will believe that the quality of the looks of his girlfriend reflects upon how successful he is.
Females want someone that makes them feel secure. Females tend to be unstable and unsure. They want someone strong, and someone who they feel can hold his own weight, and hers too. Females are very proud when they feel they've found such a partner, and also enjoy telling stories of how great he is to all their friends. A female feels that the success of their man reflects upon them.
So now we've reached this ponint. Males want a prize, and females aim to be that prize. How can I make such an assertion? Consider this:
The average female spends a large amount of time improving her looks. This is done by styling hair, buying fancy and/or revealing clothing, applying makeup, ect. A female will rarely be agressive in finding a partner, and is much more likey to sit back and wait to be impressed, or wait to be approched.
A male will work out. He will aim to improve his abilites, physically and socically, much like you would while preparing for any sporting event. Men compete for females attention in such ways as having the fastest car, the most money, being the strongest, or even having the wittiest pickup methods.
So now we have a bond between two people that is formed of sportsman and trophy. If a guy feels his trophy is no longer the shiniest, if he grows tired of it, or if he finds a clearly better one, he will normally sever this bond.
If a female feels the male is no longer polishing her enough (providing her with gifts, taking her out to dinner, ect), or feels another male is obviously more worthy of her, she will leave him.
I've reached the conclusion that the divorce rates are so high, that males and females do not understand eachother, and that two people rarely last, because of this basic analysis.
We harbor very little interest in our mates as a whole. After we have won or been won, we are statisfied with our victory, and no longer work to improve. If you truely find that you want to know what your partnet is thinking, why they act like they act, you have to ask them. You can't expect an obvious explaination from their actions.
What we all want, what we all need, is someone who can be an extension of ourselves. On an emotional level, each and every one of us feels empty. It is believed that by finding someone who is truely your "soul mate", such a void is filled.
I don't believe that any amount of possessions can fill this void. If your relationship with your partner is one of material possession, one of what the eye can see, how can happiness possibly be expected out of it? Is it possible that we've convinced ourselves we can find happiness and peace within emptiness?
It would be pitiful indeed.