Cerebral poly masturbation....

[ulesegisa]

History: when my wife and I were in a triad, it devolved (catastrophically). Because my wife and I never discussed what kind of triad each of us thought this was and what the consequences were of it devolving we are both still dealing with the trama of that breakup nearly three years later. Each of us had a different viewpoint of what we thought

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[see_tree_me]

In ABC the Egalitarian tri-equal relationship it is also possible to have loss result of A, B, C. In fact I know one triad that broke up exactly that way. The breakup between A and C was so traumatic that B said basically "a pox on both your houses

Yes, I absolutely agree!

[ulesegisa]

There is a "Loss result #2", under the ABC Egalitarian Triad. Is that the same as what you are talking about or is it something different?

possible gains...

[ulesegisa]

...humm yes, there is a bias here on my part that I did not see due to my own wounds.. you are correct. I was only looking at the moment of "loss" and what the breakup would look like in that instance. I do get that all relationships are dynamic and can change as people grow and learn. I don't want to discount that, I think what I'm trying to do here is take a split second snapshot of what a relationship becomes when two of the members of a triadic configuration can no longer be primary or secondary parters with each other

Re: possible gains...

[who_is_she]

I think growth is almost always positive in the end.. but it is also usually traumatic for me at the time. So not sure I understand the distinction of "positive growth". All change is an adjustment. and all change offers the opportunity of growth.

Re: possible gains...

[ulesegisa]

"Positive growth": newness that brings "beneficial" to your life