Cerebral poly masturbation....
History: when my wife and I were in a triad, it devolved (catastrophically). Because my wife and I never discussed what kind of triad each of us thought this was and what the consequences were of it devolving we are both still dealing with the trama of that breakup nearly three years later. Each of us had a different viewpoint of what we thought
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"Negative growth": newness that bring "baneful" to your life.
Positive growth seems to come to me in two forms.
One: a nurturing and growing environment that heals as the benefits of the lesson happens.
Two: a harsh, traumatic, jarring change that rips away the old in a (usually emotional) painful way.
Two styles I tend to refer to them as Goddess growth and God growth, however that's my own labels and not commonly used that way by most of the others I've met in my life.
Negative growth seems to happen when I'm ignoring (or more accurately "rejecting") the subtle hints for lessons that are impeding my life somehow. The subtle hints become much less subtle the longer I ignore them until they are the "Clue-by-four" upside the back of my head. Once I listen, they become positive growth patterns and I learn the lesson. So long as I ignore them they become more and more traumatic until the trauma is so great I can no longer ignore it. Sometimes that leaves scars -- some physical, some emotional. Which in turn get to be dealt with...
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