Off Couple of Weeks, Months, Year Really

[trotula]

I have tried to deal with my own crap and cry to only those closest to me, but right now I feel like screaming, so to avoid the neighbors calling the cops to report loud noises coming from my house, I thought I’d reach out to my friends to vent. So consider yourself warned, the following is the rantings of a women on the edge.

• Recently, my husband

Comments

[jillwheezul]

Why are you giving Ted your money? Did you agree to this in the dissolution? If not, tell him you need it more, especially since he is apparently moving on with his life and you have FAMILY that are disabled and need help.

Anyway that's how I see it from da cheep seats!

[khalja]

I agree with Katrine. If you don't have a legal obligation to share your money, don't.

Seriously.

[elfreda]

I third this! If you didn't sign something, don't do it. Really.

[trotula]

I kinda did agree to it. I told him if he held of on filing the divorce papers until after the end of the year so I wouldn't loose the refund (because I supported him all year), that I would share it with him. It was one of those moments when a second later I wish I had said I would share SOME of it with him, but that's not what I said and when I called him to see if he would except something less than 1/2, he reminded me that he waited because that was our deal. He wasn't mean about it, I just kinda thought he might take the high road and not expect 1/2, but I'm guessing he probably needs the money as much as I do since he is in school and not working that much except his internships, he's probably pretty broke and taking out a lot of student loans, so I'm guessing pressing the issue isn't going to get me anywhere.

[khalja]

Hey babe. I'm so sorry you are having such a rough time. That is an enormous load you are carrying around. I don't know how you do it.

I admire you.

[trotula]

Thanks, somedays it seems like a lot, then other days are not so bad. The lawn people rearranged there schedule and finally came today and I teach on Wednesdays, so when I got home there were no more dandelions and I got to spend a couple hours inspiring my students and watching them paint. My mom arrives tomorrow and we go back to court on Friday, but tonight I can just relax.

[qaratani]

You so don't need to give him anymore money. Coming from somebody that did the same thing it isn't worth it. You have way more interesting things to spend this money on than him...like yourself. You are amazing...we all know it!

[trotula]

Hey, against all odds I finally figured out how to reply to a comment, sometimes I'm such a spaz. Anyway, thanks. I kinda wish Ted would take the high road and not expect half, but somehow I don't think that is going to happen (for details why I am spliting the refund, see my reply to previous comment).

[dance_gal]

I gotta agree, this year sucks. But it has some good things too, I keep reminding myself of them.

I have great friends and so do you.
My friends have supported me thru this year, and we are there for you too.
Boys are dumb. Mine and yours. We'll get over it. They won't ;)

Spend the money on a trip to the beach. Really.

hugs and love

[trotula]

Thanks, sometimes it is easy to forget all the wonderful people in your life. You all have been sooo sweet. I agree...Boys are Dumb. Mine and yours. Hope yours is not causing you too much grief right now. I've never met him, but I'm not happy with him right now. As far as going to the beach, I'm kinda looking forward to paying off a couple loans, so it's probalby just be a walk to the river down the street.

[fjorlief]

Oh dearie...When they kept telling me that the things that don't kill us make us stronger, I said couldn't I be just a little less strong please....You have been certainly handed a larger than necessary plate of crap to deal with in the last year, and are doing amazingly well considering. Your friends love and admire you, and while it looks like life sucking from where you are, the situations will eventually change, and your loving friends will still be rooting for you!

[trotula]

Thanks, and thanks for the phone call. Hope you were able to get some sleep.