Off Couple of Weeks, Months, Year Really

[trotula]

I have tried to deal with my own crap and cry to only those closest to me, but right now I feel like screaming, so to avoid the neighbors calling the cops to report loud noises coming from my house, I thought I’d reach out to my friends to vent. So consider yourself warned, the following is the rantings of a women on the edge.

• Recently, my husband

Comments

[jillwheezul]

Why are you giving Ted your money? Did you agree to this in the dissolution? If not, tell him you need it more, especially since he is apparently moving on with his life and you have FAMILY that are disabled and need help.

Anyway that's how I see it from da cheep seats!

[khalja]

I agree with Katrine. If you don't have a legal obligation to share your money, don't.

Seriously.

[elfreda]

I third this! If you didn't sign something, don't do it. Really.

[trotula]

I kinda did agree to it. I told him if he held of on filing the divorce papers until after the end of the year so I wouldn't loose the refund (because I supported him all year), that I would share it with him. It was one of those moments when a second later I wish I had said I would share SOME of it with him, but that's not what I said and when I called him to see if he would except something less than 1/2, he reminded me that he waited because that was our deal. He wasn't mean about it, I just kinda thought he might take the high road and not expect 1/2, but I'm guessing he probably needs the money as much as I do since he is in school and not working that much except his internships, he's probably pretty broke and taking out a lot of student loans, so I'm guessing pressing the issue isn't going to get me anywhere.

[dance_gal]

so you aren't broke and taking out loans????

if you really feel you have to give him something, do....but it was your money that was paid in, and it was your money that he was living on
his problems aren't your responsibility
anymore....

[trotula]

Yeah, I see your point. I'm gonna see him next week, so we'll see. Hopefully he's take less, but somehow I doubt it.