Friends and the queen
Friends are important, very important especially if you are LGBT or whatev that's outside mainstream. I hung out with a friend the other day that I know for a long time and just loved it. It's wonderful when you have a friend that just "gets you" and you don't have to explain anything. No white elephants in the room, no censoring yourself, no nothing - just being.
The fam is doing better with my friendship/newly dating queen (he's ok with my calling him that). I just had to own up to my decisions and lay down some basic respect that I deserve and stick with it. I don't know how long this will last, but for now there is a lot less stress.
What is a bit stressful is that I work and he wants me to go to a few big shows that are booked (in NYC no traveling) but most run late and I've been there and done that - not for me anymore plus lately I'm a big home body. I will go to one or two of the early shows but not any of the late ones. Also I have my vacation coming up and he wants me to go to his shows which are on the road because these will be the very first ones he does using his own costume designs. I don't know if I want to spend my vacation doing that. So I mentioned that and he does little annoying things when he wants something - nothing big, just regular femme stuff like asking me to "come on, come on, come on" over and over again like if I don't go he's going to die. I'm attracted to the ultra feminine so I know the little games femmes play. Plus he's younger than I am so I chalk it up to that and being femme which in my experience means some passive /aggressiveness, plus he's very insecure. I know why in some areas but others don't make sense to me. I know him for about a year and he's always been like this but now that we are in a relationship it's a bit more intense.
The fam is doing better with my friendship/newly dating queen (he's ok with my calling him that). I just had to own up to my decisions and lay down some basic respect that I deserve and stick with it. I don't know how long this will last, but for now there is a lot less stress.
What is a bit stressful is that I work and he wants me to go to a few big shows that are booked (in NYC no traveling) but most run late and I've been there and done that - not for me anymore plus lately I'm a big home body. I will go to one or two of the early shows but not any of the late ones. Also I have my vacation coming up and he wants me to go to his shows which are on the road because these will be the very first ones he does using his own costume designs. I don't know if I want to spend my vacation doing that. So I mentioned that and he does little annoying things when he wants something - nothing big, just regular femme stuff like asking me to "come on, come on, come on" over and over again like if I don't go he's going to die. I'm attracted to the ultra feminine so I know the little games femmes play. Plus he's younger than I am so I chalk it up to that and being femme which in my experience means some passive /aggressiveness, plus he's very insecure. I know why in some areas but others don't make sense to me. I know him for about a year and he's always been like this but now that we are in a relationship it's a bit more intense.