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May 09, 2004 20:59

I feel as if I'm a 50 year old stuck in a 19 year old's body.

I'd rather stay at home and watch a movie then go out and get drunk.

I'd rather have nachos and beer with a good friend/sister or 3 than go to a crowded party, get trashed, and not remember what I did the night before, or who I spoke to, or who I met.

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lp_coco07 May 9 2004, 18:24:21 UTC

I connect to what you like so much lol. (I don't have a journal though... lj yes, but no journal.)

You're not boring, just different from the cool-wanna-be-girls who get drunk for the hell of it because everybody else does it. I haven't drank anything for over a year, and honestly, I don't see why I used to drink.

Don't feel old. It's good that you do what you like to do. If you don't enjoy drinking, then don't do it! You don't need to do what other girls of your age do...

thecariefariee May 9 2004, 19:12:53 UTC

Yay! Connection!

I know I'm different. I've always been different, just called other words like unique and crazy.

Same here, I used to LOVE clubbing and now... not so much.

lp_coco07 May 9 2004, 19:14:21 UTC

I've never been clubbing though, I'm still only 17 lol. Parties and crap... I don't know why I went to them now that I think about it.

thecariefariee May 9 2004, 19:24:28 UTC

Well, clubbing gets old fast like everything else... so no worries. Esp in Hull full of smoke etc, it gets not fun very fast.

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eerin May 9 2004, 18:30:04 UTC

Dude, I'm like that too. I didn't leave the house at all today, I just stayed in and watched movies and read. And while I still enjoy going out and getting drunk, I like to go out with two or three friends to a bar, not a huge group at a club. I think it's just part of growing up and becoming an adult... It doesn't mean you're old, just mature.

This is weird. I've been having adulty moments like this all day.

And there's nothing wrong with killing time at Chapter's. It's a wonderful place... Even better, though (in my opinion), is the library, because it's FREE...

thecariefariee May 9 2004, 19:18:13 UTC

Ya, but, Chapters has fun stationary and house items and yoga stuff and cds and movies and lions and tigers and bears OH MY!

eerin May 9 2004, 19:18:49 UTC

This is true, but the library has movies and cds and that lovely library smell....

thecariefariee May 9 2004, 19:26:01 UTC

Very true, but at Chapters you dont have to wait for a book to read it since there are more copies available!

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batman May 9 2004, 18:36:14 UTC

i don't enjoy any of the "normal 19 year old" activities. i haven't been to a party since january, and that was a party at my house, and i invited only two friends, and i spent most of it sleeping in andrew's room because i didn't feel like "partying". i don't really like drinking, either. i rarely do it, and when i do, it's at home with a few friends. i don't even go out to bars.

i'm not sure where you get the idea that that's what "normal" teenagers like to do. or why you think your preferences are wrong. people like what they like; you shouldn't criticize yourself for what you like to do. if you're happy, what's the problem?

thecariefariee May 9 2004, 19:14:39 UTC

I got the idea after being in res 9 times in Kingston and countless times in UO and watching what "normal" kids do, ie get drunk and wasted and be hung over in the morning... and I never got it.

I am happy, but I also want to be less boring and less predictable.

batman May 10 2004, 04:53:35 UTC

what the heck made you think that was "normal"?!

thecariefariee May 10 2004, 11:31:53 UTC

see response to bernita's comment.

inmycorner May 9 2004, 18:51:44 UTC

You're wonderful. There is nothing wrong with anything you just listed. I really never like to party or drink. I much prefer spending hours in a book store or making fun of a movie with my friends... I think that the "normal" 19 year old is just as normal as us old ladies.
I love being an old lady, though. :-/
MWAH I love you!
(and you know what would make you REALLY mad crazy exciting? Coming to Detroit...)

thecariefariee May 9 2004, 19:16:16 UTC

I <3 being an old lady too :)

Yay for not being alone...

DETROIT WHAT??? Wow that'd be awesome...

inmycorner May 9 2004, 19:49:00 UTC

YES DETROIT! You, Jen, and Andrew (and whoever else) should FINALLY come to visit us lonely Michiganers! There has yet to be a trip, and it is about time. There is lots of fun stuff we can do and it'll be fantastic (there is more than enough room too). And, if you come during June- there are lots of grad parties = FREE FOOOOOOD!
Think about it. Talk to the others. Plan.

bluefishie May 9 2004, 19:01:02 UTC

eeep!
Don't call me boring.
I've been clubbing once since turning 19. So? For a good time I like to go to a bar for a drink or two and watch the game. AND I'VE BEEN AWAY FROM HOME FOR 8 MONTHS!! This is not boring. Being 19 doesn't have to mean acting like an asshole all the time. No, quarter life crisis is something else entirely.

bolded is what I feel/am experiencing... thecariefariee May 9 2004, 19:11:16 UTC

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you ( ... )

Re: bolded is what I feel/am experiencing... bluefishie May 10 2004, 08:47:51 UTC

Read that last paragraph of what you posted. I don't see why this is called a "crisis" since it's so entirely normal. Everyone replying to your post feels the same way as you and really it's not that remarkable because, again, it's so normal. You've been in rez mainly on weekends...yeah, lots of drunken partying. At first. Then we got bored of it, cause really, are you going to do that every weekend? By the end of the year our floor was doing it maybe once a month and instead studying and writing papers all the time, or having movie/hockey nights.
AND, as Jen said, rez is SO NOT normal. It's a way fucked up situation. Living on a floor with 30 other teenagers, in a building with 800 more? No parents? On a campus where everyone is within 4 years of each other? All students? Not in the least normal.
Growing up is not a crisis.

Re: bolded is what I feel/am experiencing... thecariefariee May 10 2004, 11:30:15 UTC

THe last time I was in rez at Queens was March, and believe me there was plently of drunkeness going on... even during exams in December AND April... apparently new rez is actually al-anon on crack.

On a campus where everyone is within 4 years of each other? All students? Not in the least normal.

This is normal. The new normal. The whole idea of being at university is to be on a campus where everyone is within 4 years of each other, at least the undergrads. In 3 years when you have to leave, it will have become normal to be on a campus where everyone's pretty much around the same age ( ... )

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