Comments | sweetsourcat: Giving me a ton of shit...

sweetsourcat

Giving me a ton of shit...

Jun 13, 2007 18:04

Some of my friends, are giving me a lotta shit about this new poly friend of mine. It is bothering me a little. One friend is clearly jealous, because she is my ex. I love her very much, and we would both still be together if we weren't so shy. She also has told me she won't share me. She would rather not have me anymore than share me. But ( Read more... )

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a ton of shit anonymous June 13 2007, 23:45:20 UTC

One of your friends gets upset with the fact that you will put all aside for this guy. His point is that you should do as you choose and be who you are. But remember who your friends are and dont put them aside for something as uncertain as a new guy in your life.

To make a new boyfriend is easy, but to find true friends can take a lifetime.

Re: a ton of shit sweetsourcat June 14 2007, 00:37:08 UTC

We discussed this one the phone... all is good now. :) And true friends only take like 2 years dude... not a lifetime. :P

Re: a ton of shit heido June 14 2007, 04:03:52 UTC

True friends don't comment anonymously.

You've got nre. They need to learn how to deal with it. You are not responsible for *anyone's* emotions but your own. They are responsible for their own reactions.

Don't get stuck on a guilt trip.

And the one that says she won't share you? Hello!? Poly is sharing and learning boundaries. How dare someone put restrictions on you.

Re: a ton of shit sweetsourcat June 14 2007, 04:17:16 UTC

she is not poly. she is a straight mono girl who likes me. (I feel special, I am the exception) But he won't let her be with me anymore anyways...so it is just heartache now.

NRE confuses people. They keep telling my I am in over my head and all kinds of nuts shit... I think I just happen to like a guy who so far, seems nice. And he likes me back. People need to relax!

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randyjackson221 June 14 2007, 00:20:22 UTC

Personally, I don't think you've been ignoring anyone. I feel like I've been given a fair amount of attention. I'm happy that you've met this guy.

fried_owl June 14 2007, 17:16:08 UTC

That's too bad your friends don't understand yet, but at least they are voicing their concerns instead of staying silent like certain people I know.

Also, I'm sure your new friend would understand if you wanted to cut the phone call short to talk to your old friends. And then he wouldn't get in trouble himself for keeping the line busy. :)

sweetsourcat June 14 2007, 17:45:23 UTC

Yea- my friends are very vocal... and yes, the phone call was a little long. Less is more? :P

ANGEL OR DEVIL 2pumpkin73 June 18 2007, 00:58:16 UTC

Funny (or not) that I should check this out when you post something that pertains to me. I am not really sure if you misunderstand me or what. You know I love you my dear. I never asked you to just be with me or said make a choice. I just never considered you being with someone else since we have been together. It hasn't been an issue before. I would never ask you to do that. It would not be fair and would be completely selfish on my part. I just simply told you how I felt. You asked. Don't ask if you don't want to know. I am just trying to be open about my feelings. You know I want you to be happy and I am glad that you have found someone that makes you happy and makes you all giddy. He seems like a nice guy and I enjoyed talking with him more when we went to go see him ( ... )

Re: ANGEL OR DEVIL sweetsourcat June 18 2007, 02:23:14 UTC

angel. you know that. a tricky angel though... thanks for the nice comment. i love you too...