Giving me a ton of shit...

[sweetsourcat]

Some of my friends, are giving me a lotta shit about this new poly friend of mine.  It is bothering me a little.  One friend is clearly jealous, because she is my ex.  I love her very much, and we would both still be together if we weren't so shy.  She also has told me she won't share me.  She would rather not have me anymore than share me.  But

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a ton of shit

[anonymous]

One of your friends gets upset with the fact that you will put all aside for this guy. His point is that you should do as you choose and be who you are. But remember who your friends are and dont put them aside for something as uncertain as a new guy in your life.

To make a new boyfriend is easy, but to find true friends can take a lifetime.

Re: a ton of shit

[sweetsourcat]

We discussed this one the phone... all is good now. :) And true friends only take like 2 years dude... not a lifetime. :P

Re: a ton of shit

[heido]

True friends don't comment anonymously.

You've got nre. They need to learn how to deal with it. You are not responsible for *anyone's* emotions but your own. They are responsible for their own reactions.

Don't get stuck on a guilt trip.

And the one that says she won't share you? Hello!? Poly is sharing and learning boundaries. How dare someone put restrictions on you.

Re: a ton of shit

[sweetsourcat]

she is not poly. she is a straight mono girl who likes me. (I feel special, I am the exception) But he won't let her be with me anymore anyways...so it is just heartache now.

NRE confuses people. They keep telling my I am in over my head and all kinds of nuts shit... I think I just happen to like a guy who so far, seems nice. And he likes me back. People need to relax!

Re: a ton of shit

[heido]

Okay. I get the straight mono thing. I do.

The big thing is that they're not poly so they don't know that poly people do put themselves out there more so of course pain is inevitable. Sure there will be pieces to pick up ... That's what your friends are for. Supporting you is my #1 job as your friend.