A lot of my social history has been about being on the outside of groups and wanting to fit in. This includes the most primary group of all: I'm an only child who was culturally, emotionally, and eventually physically alienated from my parents. So while I never expect to be allowed to fit in, and don't really even feel comfortable fitting in, it's ( Read more... )

shesanightowlWrote a provocative response to my post about gaybars and subway exhibitionists. So here's an attempt to figure out what I really think ( Read more... )

I had an innnnteresting night. At the end of it, I don't know whether to love men or despise them.

Scene 1 (wherein i give a man some luvin)
I spent the first part of the night at a bar called "The Cock", which needless to say is a pretty touchy-feely gay bar. "Touchy-feely" in the sense of "reach out and touch, cop a feel if you want", not "I'm ( Read more... )

Time Magazine has a special issue out on romance. The articles are rather silly for the most part, but just as I was getting annoyed at the heterosexual monogamous assumptions in them, bless their hearts they actually has an article looking at the differences among gay, lesbian and straight couples. Nice ( Read more... )

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I'd rather be as I currently am: a skater and involuntarily celibate, than the other way around, *that's for sure*. Learning to spin and jump on ice -- it's every bit as thrilling and fulfilling as good sex (and far more reliable). As good *vanilla* sex, that is ( Read more... )

Last week the PBS TV show NOW reported statistics on military rape and sexual assault. How about some support for our troops? No, really, how about it?

I don't particularly like it when people report statistics on sexual harrassment along with ones on rape, because it can tend to confuse people. In military terminology, according to NOW " ( Read more... )

polyamory robs many conventional stories of their dramatic tension. take the return of the king movie, that i saw today: aragorn clearly felt for eowyn, so why couldn't he have simply given her some loving healing? what? it's nobler in the mind for a healer to stay chaste and let a cherished companion suffer? maybe he just wasn't that into her.

When I was in high school, in french class, we once talked about our aspirations in life. Before I could respond, a classmate interrupted me and replied: "he's going to be a loser in life ( Read more... )

I inline skated over to Wollman rink today, to watch the figure skating in Harlem gala.

Later I re-learned to do 3-turns on my inline speed-skates. I'm mostly jumping-over them, rather than doing them smoothly. Did a few teeeensey waltz jumps, and set-ups for a sal (but no way was I going to jump).

Discovered that it's somewhat possible to do ( Read more... )