Dad's memories of Mom... and more.
Today has not been a good day. I got a letter from my dad, and he's ok, that wasn't the issue. He's depressed over losing Mom, his former wife, and realizing that he was still very much in love with her. It hurt him to see her in her final hours, even tho it barely seemed that way at the time. He called it denial, and now depression. He shared a bit about their history, about the year of Mom's depression when the love of her life Bob died (which I do remember that year all too well), and he asked for a few minor things of Mom's, like photos of her in her kimono, and a death certificate for his own house ownership records.
They owned the house jointly, and now he needs to take a loan out to improve the home. I think that since I now own whatever she owned, I may actually be a part owner of that house. I am not sure if I am, or if I want to be. But if he needs the certificate to fix the house up (by removing her name from the deed because of death), then he can have it.
So this has made me miss my Mom even more. Dad talked about using the "windfall" from Mom's home to take my children to Japan, and to never forget that side of my heritage. Belive me, I won't forget Mom's Japanese songs that I will rock my daughter to sleep by on my back like she used to do. And as for "windfall"... if I could give all that back to get my Mom back, I would do it in a heartbeat.
I do plan on taking the kids to Japan when they are older and can remember the trip. I recall my own trip there when I was 6, but only barely. I also hope that Sean would want to spend some time there as well, but that's his decision to make now that he's almost an adult. I know my Mom had always wanted to take Sean to Japan, to meet his cousins, and to know that world. She wanted a lot of things for Sean, and for our daughter.
It's getting too painful to write... gotta go.
They owned the house jointly, and now he needs to take a loan out to improve the home. I think that since I now own whatever she owned, I may actually be a part owner of that house. I am not sure if I am, or if I want to be. But if he needs the certificate to fix the house up (by removing her name from the deed because of death), then he can have it.
So this has made me miss my Mom even more. Dad talked about using the "windfall" from Mom's home to take my children to Japan, and to never forget that side of my heritage. Belive me, I won't forget Mom's Japanese songs that I will rock my daughter to sleep by on my back like she used to do. And as for "windfall"... if I could give all that back to get my Mom back, I would do it in a heartbeat.
I do plan on taking the kids to Japan when they are older and can remember the trip. I recall my own trip there when I was 6, but only barely. I also hope that Sean would want to spend some time there as well, but that's his decision to make now that he's almost an adult. I know my Mom had always wanted to take Sean to Japan, to meet his cousins, and to know that world. She wanted a lot of things for Sean, and for our daughter.
It's getting too painful to write... gotta go.