Today’s insight into my analysis of interpersonal risk and reward involves being a houseguest, a differently intimate sort of interaction than I usually focus on. I am hopeful that this different context for what is really the same issue will help someone understand it who previously hasn’t.

Sam and I took a flight together. Upon landing, Sam ( Read more... )

Moved to Hawaii for at least 7 months, got a house with guest rooms in Kailua-Kona.

Shelved the CoDwell project indefinitely, refunded investments.

Started a job at Google as a software engineer.

Working on buying 75-450 acres near Hilo or Pahoa for living, gardening, friends visiting, strangers camping, community building, makery pursuits.

Stepping ( Read more... )

 Over the last few days and weeks someone close to me has indulged my need for deeper conversation about my behavior and led me to realize something that I've been doing for a while but had not previously nailed down.

People often tell me "If you do X thing, you make it unlikely the other person will interact with you again, heed your future advice ( Read more... )

 A Week Back East

I did not attend Burning Man this year, because Victoria is stuck in Toronto and I've discovered that I don't like attending big events alone. Instead, I decided to visit Victoria and other friends and partners on the east coast. I discovered later that some friends would have wanted me to go to BM with them, and was also invited ( Read more... )

I recently celebrated the one year anniversary of my marriage to Victoria, which is also pretty close to the two year anniversary of us doing something that you might label dating if you squint and tilt your head a little. My life has never been uninteresting, but the ride has gotten even more exciting recently, mostly thanks to her. We don't ( Read more... )

It has been far too long since I posted a general update of the state and progress of my life, and I am joining a number of new (and long-ignored) social networks so this seems like a way to catch up quickly ( Read more... )

Found while organizing old documents, a folder labeled "Memories". Some of the contents ( Read more... )