Today’s insight into my analysis of interpersonal risk and reward involves being a houseguest, a differently intimate sort of interaction than I usually focus on. I am hopeful that this different context for what is really the same issue will help someone understand it who previously hasn’t.

Sam and I took a flight together. Upon landing, Sam ( Read more... )

"One of his biggest demons is his sex monster. His desire for erotic connection tends to get him into trouble. A lot. Folxs have posted their experiences with that side of him. For such an empathetic creature, he sure has a hard time understanding if he should keep going in intimate situations."

Take a moment and let your imagination wander, ( Read more... )

I was recently confronted by someone who proposed a utilitarian viewpoint valuing only people's happiness, calling it Good to make people happier and Bad/Wrong to make people less happy, with some inconsistent distinction between "upset" and "hurt" as categories of unhappiness. They were of the opinion that my aggressive and controversial approach ( Read more... )

This post contains topics known to be traumatically triggering to some people ( Read more... )

Trigger warning: consent, rationality, emotion, subjectivity ( Read more... )

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SummaryThis was my first net-negative experience at a burn or con. The things I learned will have positive value in the future, so eventually I can look back and say this weekend was worth it, but I don't know how long that will take. I've finished burning a lot of bridges and made some new friends. Firefly is still the best regional burn I've been ( Read more... )

Our society refuses to take organs from a corpse without the person's consent, even when it would save multiple lives. We refuse to take blood or bone marrow from an unwilling donor, even when it would save a life or cure a disease ( Read more... )

Consent is important to me. I have multiple people in my life who have been in situations that ended badly, even life changingly, over issues with consent. Like many things, I've put more thought into this subject in a few years than most people will in their whole life. Like many things on that list, talking about this in depth is a social taboo, ( Read more... )