Comments | slikkychic: second time in writing this, i hate lj

slikkychic

second time in writing this, i hate lj

Dec 16, 2005 07:58

I am the Rake

A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy-figure - when he desires a woman, brief though that moment may be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her. He may be disloyal, dishonest and amoral, but that only ( Read more... )

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spacylacey December 16 2005, 09:50:33 UTC

I think maybe you need to check out Nina Hartley. She is my sex positive hero. I don't just mean her videos. She has advice colums and instructional aids, and most importantly, life expiearence.

Nina Hartley.

You won't be sorry.

slikkychic December 17 2005, 19:07:01 UTC

hey lace, thanks for the advice. i recognized her name, so i checked out her website. and *ding* realized where i had heard it. shes friends with carol queen, the woman who is my sex-goddess idol (and to top it off, she lives with her gay male lover!!! hah). ill definitely look more into nina, especially now.

spacylacey December 18 2005, 16:05:08 UTC

Have you read Carol Queen's "Exhibitionism for the Shy?" Very interesting. Very helpful.

She's got some other good ones but I am still reading the first.

slikkychic December 19 2005, 16:03:13 UTC

i have yet to read it, although i have heard of it. definitely.

however, i loved 'real live nude girl'

sinistervodka December 16 2005, 14:57:47 UTC

I don't think you're rambling. Just soul searching, and that's fine. I hope putting it all down on paper (cyber paper, whatever) helped you sort out some of your own feelings.

dj_jazzy_jas December 17 2005, 03:24:21 UTC

maybe experimenting will revitalize your sexxx drive????
<3

docta_g December 17 2005, 03:31:42 UTC

You do certainly come across as being open to sex, so people feel easier talking to you about it. I've found myself in similar positions, and I'm also known for giving too much information. Yet, I think of sex almost like food, we all eat, we all have sex, let's enjoy it. Also, it's great that you're questioning where exactly your beliefs and interests come from, it's good to be reflexive in that sense. You also mention casual sex, and I had a similar epiphany after I had been hooking up for about a year; the truth is, most of them just wanted to get off. Heck, most of them made it obvious that they had no interest in my pleasure; it's as if they reciprocated only because they had to. I, myself, never quite understood this, I thought sex was about exploration, and giving and receiving. And sex is MUCH better when you actually like the person, and I wouldn't say that's necessarily a hang-up per se, but it just allows you to be more comfortable, and it's more enjoyable to please someone you actually care about ( ... )

slikkychic December 17 2005, 19:04:58 UTC

thank you for your input. eloquently put. i know, i know, the gay guy thing has to stop. and it probably will, when i sleep with one and realize theyre just people too. then ill find a new obsession. :)