second time in writing this, i hate lj

[slikkychic]

I am the Rake

A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is too often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy-figure - when he desires a woman, brief though that moment may be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her. He may be disloyal, dishonest and amoral, but that only

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[docta_g]

You do certainly come across as being open to sex, so people feel easier talking to you about it. I've found myself in similar positions, and I'm also known for giving too much information. Yet, I think of sex almost like food, we all eat, we all have sex, let's enjoy it. Also, it's great that you're questioning where exactly your beliefs and interests come from, it's good to be reflexive in that sense. You also mention casual sex, and I had a similar epiphany after I had been hooking up for about a year; the truth is, most of them just wanted to get off. Heck, most of them made it obvious that they had no interest in my pleasure; it's as if they reciprocated only because they had to. I, myself, never quite understood this, I thought sex was about exploration, and giving and receiving. And sex is MUCH better when you actually like the person, and I wouldn't say that's necessarily a hang-up per se, but it just allows you to be more comfortable, and it's more enjoyable to please someone you actually care about.

Also, don't be so hung up on getting with a gay guy. The stereotypes are largely false, they fuck just like other men do; sad but true. And they aren't all that sensitive or attentive either. I was hoping for the same, but people are people whether they're gay or straight, I guess...

So yeah, I pretty much just echoed your thoughts, but at least you know you're not alone.

[slikkychic]

thank you for your input. eloquently put. i know, i know, the gay guy thing has to stop. and it probably will, when i sleep with one and realize theyre just people too. then ill find a new obsession. :)