Thinking

[similiesslip]

Now, to preface this, let me say that I am "in a traditional family structure."  So I am not saying it is wrong to be so.

I was reading this article though:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/message-to-girls-about-re_b_1518849.html#s327357&title=Rev_Dr_Sharon

Which made me think more about WHY so many conservative people seem to be against

Comments

[soprano1790]

I'm sorry for the novel

[similiesslip]

I think the article was primarily address militant Muslims (not all Muslims) rather than those who consider themselves Christians or Baptists, etc

[similiesslip]

Women hold 90, or 16.8%, of the 535 seats in the 112th US Congress - 17, or 17.0%, of the 100 seats in the Senate and 73, or 16.8%, of the 435 seats in the House of Representatives.

So we are "under represented." Naturally, this does affect which kind of laws are presented and passed.

So many people look down on "welfare moms." Get a job! they say. But who can you leave the baby with? Daycare, even cheap (not very good care) daycare is expensive. Minimum wage is very low.

And it's not just single moms. How about moms with a husband unable to work?

I do not think everyone considers womens issues...which honestly, are women and children issues for the most part. What happens to a mom has an effect on children.

Ideally, every woman who wants to would marry good men who never leave and are faithful and good dads and treat the wife as an equal partner. That doesn't always happen. I think everyone should consider what happens to the people who have the lives that are not ideal and are trying to still make a life for their kids.

[soprano1790]

I agree with you about the childcare thing. That isn't how I would want to be in a couple either. I think both parents need to do the work, and I don't think that the woman should have problems at work for having to take of kids. Things have gone a long way in 50 years though, so we just need to keep working at it.

What happens to those women in other countries is unbelievable. It does make me grateful for how we are treated here. In this country, if we don't like the way we are being treated, we can stand up and say it. At least we have that.

[similiesslip]

Sometimes we have that and sometimes we don't. There are women in certain religions who want to leave but have to choose whether they can risk it. I've read about ladies in religious plural marriages who were abused and really kept apart so leaving was very, very hard.

So much depends on one's husband/partner. There are men who don't want you to speak up and will make sure you regret doing so.

[similiesslip]

I appreciate you sharing so many of your thoughts and perspectives.

I think men should be gentle, kind and giving too. I don't think those attribute are strictly feminine. I think sometimes by deciding "men should be this" "women should be that" we make men who try NOT to be kind and gentle and giving because they feel that is being girly. Then what does a woman do who has committed herself to a man who starts being unkind and rough and stingy a great deal of the time?

I do respect your view point a lot. I would have written a similar answer just a few years ago.

I guess I am discouraged. I've tried so many different ways of being a submissive wife and it doesn't seem to "work" for every family.

[soprano1790]

I think those adjectives are related to motherhood. It's really such a confusing issue, but I don't really see that as a bad thing. Men should be gentle and kind too, but they are not mothers. Men and women are different for a reason. They complement each other. I don't think this means that women shouldn't be opinionated or out spoken, or men shouldn't be gentle and giving. But we do complement each other, and I don't think that should be discouraged