Single-d Out
Strangely, a plague called break up has been inflicting agony to a few of my friends lately. But there's someone close to my heart that has been in so much pain for months now ever since that her dratted guy broke up with her.
I've been a witness to their ups and downs and honestly (with a little bias though), I can't help thinking that my friend is on the "losing" side of their relationship. First off, she's pretty, sexy and sweet; her (ex)boyfriend does not keep up with her. So imagine my chagrin when I learned that the guy was the first one who decided to split up. I couldn't help myself calling him an ogre for making my friend cry. To think she loved him with all her heart.
She cried everyday, almost on the verge of ending her life. She'd hurt herself and is rarely seen smiling genuinely. Honestly, I don't enjoy seeing her like that. It's weird to look at this friend you've known to be as jolly as you are who would suddenly transform into a sulking young lady. So, with my best foot forward, I tried to console her, telling her that the guy is not worth her tears. There are lots of fish in the sea; I tried to convince her. I listened through her sobs and would try giving some advice, based on what I see on other people who's had experienced the same thing.
But then, she'll jokingly blurt out, "Wow, parang may experience ah."
She was kidding, I know, but for some reason, it hurt.
Yes, I've never entered a relationship. As what most people would coin, I'm an NBSB-No Boyfriend Since Birth. I've never known anyone who liked me or even experienced being courted. I have been single my entire life so far. And I thought it's just okay.
But then, it seemed that I have to have a boyfriend first before I become someone else's friend. It hurts to think that in the circle, I am the only one left alone when someone in the barkada would come weeping at us because she and her guy broke up. Everybody would empathize over her and they'd talk about what had happened, eventually ignoring me. Me who's not in the position to comfort her friend just because she doesn't have experience. Me who can't keep up with giving advices yet willing to listen and be there. I'm clearly being singled out.
Single na nga, sini-single out pa ako. I sigh.
It felt like being in a relationship has become a status quo; being single connotes something pejorative.
Well, let's set the records straight. Just because I don't have any boyfriend yet it doesn't mean I'm not capable of acting maturely. And just because I'm single since birth it doesn't mean I don't have the right to give my two cents to any friend's situation. If one is ticked off by the fact that someone like me who has no experience blabbers nothing but empty and hackneyed advice, I apologize for being a kibitzer. I apologize for even bothering to help. But I'm a friend, a friend who cares and I will act like one.
And I'm desperately trying.
I've been a witness to their ups and downs and honestly (with a little bias though), I can't help thinking that my friend is on the "losing" side of their relationship. First off, she's pretty, sexy and sweet; her (ex)boyfriend does not keep up with her. So imagine my chagrin when I learned that the guy was the first one who decided to split up. I couldn't help myself calling him an ogre for making my friend cry. To think she loved him with all her heart.
She cried everyday, almost on the verge of ending her life. She'd hurt herself and is rarely seen smiling genuinely. Honestly, I don't enjoy seeing her like that. It's weird to look at this friend you've known to be as jolly as you are who would suddenly transform into a sulking young lady. So, with my best foot forward, I tried to console her, telling her that the guy is not worth her tears. There are lots of fish in the sea; I tried to convince her. I listened through her sobs and would try giving some advice, based on what I see on other people who's had experienced the same thing.
But then, she'll jokingly blurt out, "Wow, parang may experience ah."
She was kidding, I know, but for some reason, it hurt.
Yes, I've never entered a relationship. As what most people would coin, I'm an NBSB-No Boyfriend Since Birth. I've never known anyone who liked me or even experienced being courted. I have been single my entire life so far. And I thought it's just okay.
But then, it seemed that I have to have a boyfriend first before I become someone else's friend. It hurts to think that in the circle, I am the only one left alone when someone in the barkada would come weeping at us because she and her guy broke up. Everybody would empathize over her and they'd talk about what had happened, eventually ignoring me. Me who's not in the position to comfort her friend just because she doesn't have experience. Me who can't keep up with giving advices yet willing to listen and be there. I'm clearly being singled out.
Single na nga, sini-single out pa ako. I sigh.
It felt like being in a relationship has become a status quo; being single connotes something pejorative.
Well, let's set the records straight. Just because I don't have any boyfriend yet it doesn't mean I'm not capable of acting maturely. And just because I'm single since birth it doesn't mean I don't have the right to give my two cents to any friend's situation. If one is ticked off by the fact that someone like me who has no experience blabbers nothing but empty and hackneyed advice, I apologize for being a kibitzer. I apologize for even bothering to help. But I'm a friend, a friend who cares and I will act like one.
And I'm desperately trying.