funny how that works... I'm learning a lot about self-esteem in university, since I pretty much have a minor in Psychology now.
You clearly have to know that you are in the realm of "above average" for looks... I mean, you goto photoshoots and dress up and pose and people obviously respond to you in a pretty good way right? Otherwise you wouldn't even be there at all.
So, let's ignore that there might be an actual physical problem for a sec... why do you think you need to be more than what you are?
I'm a reletively attractive guy I think... I've got a severe case of psoriasis though (REALLY dry (red) and flakey (white) skin) ... suprisingly, when I was growing up with this problem I came to a realization... that people although originally treated me differently for the way I looked.... but after a time, it never mattered ever again.. so what did people use to judge my attractiveness after meeting me a few times? Confidence... pure and simple... just being cheerful and confident made me very attractive to people.. and when people responded to that.. I became happy.. and you can see how this is a spirallying UP effect... very ideal. 'Cause spiralling DOWN sucks..
anyways.. that's my blab.. we've not talked in a while.. so you get a LONG response :) hehe.
Hey darling, thanks for your input. Whats so frustrating is I know all of this! I know Im just being psycho and lame, and that is what is so irritating about it all. I know a source of my low self esteem comes from me losing my hair. Its gotten REALLY bad over the last couple of months.
I never have a problem with people. Im always happy and upbeat regardless of my own problems. I think maybe, I never hang out with girls anymore. I am always around a bunch of guys who wouldnt even dare show that I am attractive because they respect my boyfriend. I just dont feel attractive. And then my bf makes little commenst as a joke but I guess it gets to me sometimes. Sigh.
You clearly have to know that you are in the realm of "above average" for looks... I mean, you goto photoshoots and dress up and pose and people obviously respond to you in a pretty good way right? Otherwise you wouldn't even be there at all.
So, let's ignore that there might be an actual physical problem for a sec... why do you think you need to be more than what you are?
I'm a reletively attractive guy I think... I've got a severe case of psoriasis though (REALLY dry (red) and flakey (white) skin) ... suprisingly, when I was growing up with this problem I came to a realization... that people although originally treated me differently for the way I looked.... but after a time, it never mattered ever again.. so what did people use to judge my attractiveness after meeting me a few times? Confidence... pure and simple... just being cheerful and confident made me very attractive to people.. and when people responded to that.. I became happy.. and you can see how this is a spirallying UP effect... very ideal. 'Cause spiralling DOWN sucks..
anyways.. that's my blab.. we've not talked in a while.. so you get a LONG response :) hehe.
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I never have a problem with people. Im always happy and upbeat regardless of my own problems. I think maybe, I never hang out with girls anymore. I am always around a bunch of guys who wouldnt even dare show that I am attractive because they respect my boyfriend. I just dont feel attractive. And then my bf makes little commenst as a joke but I guess it gets to me sometimes. Sigh.
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