As Maddox would say: If you disagree with anything you find on this page, you are wrong.

[say_kiss]

Girls are one big fucking contradiction. Hence the reggression of my attitude. Apparantly, i had it right before when i was in highschool

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[tillie1123]

Sorry my entry is broken up into sections b/c it’s so long…haha

[tillie1123]

Now I also think the whole idea of the "one" and "love" are terms used too much in our culture. Western culture is so into finding the "one" and into romance. Look at the movies today...love stories galore and guess what, they all have happy endings. We even watch tv shows with those love stories and say awww how cute, i wish i had that. But I think we're too into finding intimate relationships with that one special person. For instance, Japanese seem to rely more on friendships to gain intimacy, whereas Americans seek it more in romantic relationships with a boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse. In noting this, some researchers have suggested that Asians who tend to be less focused on personal feelings such as passion and are more concerned with the practical aspects of social attachmetns appear less vulnerable to the kind of disillusionment that leads to the crumbling of relationships. (i'll re-bring up this issue later, I'm sure

[tillie1123]

Ok, and i have to say this. I've read a lot of post of ppl saying that girls want to be treated shitty? um ok...last time i checked girls don't like it. I know from my own experience when I started to be treated "shitty" i brought up the issue. I even tried to end the relationship, but like most ppl, i just couldn't do it b/c I kept trying to hold onto what wasn't there. but then i realized that that person wasn't the same person I "fell in love" with and things wouldn't ever be the same no matter what...and then i got over it. And I also have to say that I don't know of a single girl that has run off with some guy just for the pleasure of being "beaten." I don't know about you, but I don't think I've ever heard a girl say, "Yes, I get to go see Jimbo today and he's going to punch me in my stomach and then rape me 10x and then maybe spit on me...oooo I'm so pumped! I love him." The only time I've heard a girl say she was excited to break out the whips and chains was if she was into s&m. oook. Now, I do know also from

[tillie1123]

anyways....got off the topic. So about the word love being used too much. When ppl say this to eachother, a lot of times I don't think they really mean it. I mean, I know I've said it and had it said back to me, and no I wasn't lying when i said it and neither was he, b/c at the time we thought we really felt that. But we didn't. I honestly don't even know what love really is. I mean, i know it's a good feeling, right? The Dalai Lama says, "you often find relationships very much based on immediate sexual attraction." He also says those relationships don't last. Then he says, "you can have other types of relationships, on the otherhand, in which the prson in a cool state of mind will realize that physically speaking, in terms of appearance, my bf or gf may not be that ttractive b/ he or she is really a good person, a kind, gentle person." Both of those relationships don't last. Then the Dalai Lama says, "However, there is a second type of relationship which is also based on sexual attraction, but in which the physical

[tillie1123]

I have had a lot of experiences with my good guy friends coming out and telling me they have "feelings" for me. And like those girls you speak of, I usually don't go for it. No, I don't think i'm a bad person b/c I won't go out with a guy friend of mine. It's not my fault I don't have that sort of connection wtih him. How come girls are being called jerks and what not for not going out w/ a guy? why can't guys and girls just be friends? I am more into friendships than relationships. I have never been the kind of girl that goes searching for "the one." I would much rather have someone as a friend than anything else. But this doesn't seem to work for a lot of people. I love how after a break up both people agree to remain friends, b/c you know, you would hate to lose such a good thing. But honestly, things aren't the same. You're never going to have what you once had as a friendship with that person, there's always going to be that underlying issue of trust. Trust...what a strong word. I will say this, I don't trust ppl

[tillie1123]

ok...sorry i know i've gotten way off topic here. I'm just thinking about all the previous comments that have been made and I feel like i have so much to say. So i know you said in your original post that this had nothing to do with your situation or whatever. but i want to make a small comment on your situation. I agree that you ahve been put in a shitty situation recently. But I don't think that going back to being an asshole is the trick either. I mean, no offense but look at your hs career with girls. Did a single one of them get you anything but "ass?" The other day someone said to me, "she obviously doesn't respect her body so why should he?" meaning, why shouldn't you just use a girl to get some if she's willing to give it out. but referring back to the Dalai Lama, he also believes that everybody is a human being and should be treated like one. NO matter if it's the pope or some crack whore on the side of the road, they're still human beings and should be treated the same. That's how he deals with people. Sorry to

[tillie1123]

Thank freaking goodness that somebody finally mentioned something that actually has some validity to it. Why is it when there is a problem it is always somebody else's fault? Maybe just maybe if we took responsibility for ourselves and looked within ourselves the solution to the many complaints/problems mentioned could be found. I know the female gender is far from perfect but one must admit the staggering percentage of male on female crimes as compared to female on male crimes. As an individual of the male gender I feel ashamed to see what we, as men, do to females. I do realize that this whole situation was started with a quote and how one individuals experiences could be applied to that quote but still I think I must say what I need to say. When we say it is acceptable to abuse, in any way, another person we are violating that persons rights as a person. Even if they justifiably deserve it or whatever it still doesn't make it ok. By speaking for females and saying that they want a certain thing, such as abuse, from a

[pags411]

More misunderstandings. I don't think anyone discussed physical beatings...because no one really likes those.

[tillie1123]

"Now what I think you meant to say is that sincere guys are commonly left in the dust when the girl runs off with the mysterious guy that beats her."

[tillie1123]

word

[pags411]

There's some good stuff in here. Just one side note: none of the initial post was referring to something in an away message. We don't want anyone to take offense or feel the need to defend themselves. You seem to focus on the idea of what your AIM message said- we just want to make it clear this started with a quote Jake spotted in a profile. He hadn't slept for 36 hours, and the only nourishment his body was burning was a cup of coffee and a caffeine pill. It's safe to say that the lucid nature of the post is only because he was hallucinating.

[tillie1123]

ok i'm sorry you're right. the original post was referring to someones profile in AIM. sorry, will you please forgive me

[say_kiss]

forgiven

Just dont let it happen again...ever