Power
Here's the way of it people...Every one should learn this lesson, young and old. There is power in money, it's sad but true. Listen, about the time that kids go back to college I hear parents complain about little Johnny/Suzie doing this, or that, that's got them pissed off. Wether it be moving in with their sugnificant other, or partying every night or whatever. The thing that really urks me though is that as much as the parents hate what their doing they always say something to the effect of, "There's nothing I can do about it though, they don't live at home any more and they are an adult". If this is you, wether you're the dismaided pissed off parent, or the child who thinks you can get away with what ever you want now, PAY ATTENTION HERE....
Just because little Johnny/Suzie isn't living at home and is 18/21 or older does not mean you have no power over them. You don't want Suzie moving in with her boyfriend, here's what you do...and it's real simple...don't pay for it. That's right, don't pay for it. I know, I know, you're thinking "That's too easy, it'd never work" and Suzie's thinking "They'd never do that" Well here's the facts for you. 90% of all college students depend finacially on their parents in some way shape or form. Most parents pay the tuition, buy the school books, and assist in paying the room and bord fees. Little Johnny lives in an appartment and gets his tuition and books covered though. Yes, but I still am very willing to bet the Little Johnny still goes home to mommy and daddy with his hands out for bill money, or grocery money, or just money for going out with the guys. Point is, no matter where the kid lives they always need money.
Now I am willing to bet that if you told Little Johnny that as long as he kept partying over the weekends you weren't going to pay for his car insurance, or books, or whatever it is you pay for, Lille Johnny would stop partying in about a month's time. You want Little Suzzie out of her boyfriends apartment, fine...no tuition money for Suzzie...no book money for Suzzie. She has her boyfirend to support her now right. Chances are she'd move out real fast.
The point of my rant here...there really is power in money! Parents if you have a problem with how your kids are living outside your home then stop giving them money! Don't disown them, don't say they aren't ever welcome home...unless you feel that strongly about it...just don't give them money. It will hurt and they will be forced to change in one way or another. Kids....if you think you can manage without your parents then I dare you to go one semmester without taking even a penney from your parents. I am willing to bet that you cannot do it, at least not comfortably and without suffering in some way.
Just because little Johnny/Suzie isn't living at home and is 18/21 or older does not mean you have no power over them. You don't want Suzie moving in with her boyfriend, here's what you do...and it's real simple...don't pay for it. That's right, don't pay for it. I know, I know, you're thinking "That's too easy, it'd never work" and Suzie's thinking "They'd never do that" Well here's the facts for you. 90% of all college students depend finacially on their parents in some way shape or form. Most parents pay the tuition, buy the school books, and assist in paying the room and bord fees. Little Johnny lives in an appartment and gets his tuition and books covered though. Yes, but I still am very willing to bet the Little Johnny still goes home to mommy and daddy with his hands out for bill money, or grocery money, or just money for going out with the guys. Point is, no matter where the kid lives they always need money.
Now I am willing to bet that if you told Little Johnny that as long as he kept partying over the weekends you weren't going to pay for his car insurance, or books, or whatever it is you pay for, Lille Johnny would stop partying in about a month's time. You want Little Suzzie out of her boyfriends apartment, fine...no tuition money for Suzzie...no book money for Suzzie. She has her boyfirend to support her now right. Chances are she'd move out real fast.
The point of my rant here...there really is power in money! Parents if you have a problem with how your kids are living outside your home then stop giving them money! Don't disown them, don't say they aren't ever welcome home...unless you feel that strongly about it...just don't give them money. It will hurt and they will be forced to change in one way or another. Kids....if you think you can manage without your parents then I dare you to go one semmester without taking even a penney from your parents. I am willing to bet that you cannot do it, at least not comfortably and without suffering in some way.