Something that really bothers me.
Is when friends go to other people/mutual friends to inquire about particular things involving me. I mean, I guess as long as I never find out about it, no harm done, right? But when I find out I get hella paranoid and actually incredibly frustrated.
I'm talking about, for example, if a friend is concerned they might have irritated me. Instead of asking me, they'll ask a friend of mine 'Is Ryo mad at me? Did I annoy her?'. While I may not initially be annoyed with the friend in question before, finding that out is bound to do the trick.
Why? Mainly because no one can give as accurate answers as myself, and I'm more worried that whoever is being asked will give answers that are wrong. And I know of several instances where this has actually happened and it just complicates situations that could have been kept perfectly untangled if they has simply asked me instead.
'Does Ryo like/not like _____?' The only person who should be answering these sorts of questions is me. I pride myself on being upfront and explaining how I feel about things, and I very rarely get rattled by questions people ask me; in fact I love it when people are upfront with me too. I may not always like the questions asked, but I will always answer them. When I find out that others have been discussing me in this sort of way I just sit there and freak out about what else has been discussed and whether it's actually accurate or not because despite what people might like to think--
--they don't know me that well.
*sigh*
I'm talking about, for example, if a friend is concerned they might have irritated me. Instead of asking me, they'll ask a friend of mine 'Is Ryo mad at me? Did I annoy her?'. While I may not initially be annoyed with the friend in question before, finding that out is bound to do the trick.
Why? Mainly because no one can give as accurate answers as myself, and I'm more worried that whoever is being asked will give answers that are wrong. And I know of several instances where this has actually happened and it just complicates situations that could have been kept perfectly untangled if they has simply asked me instead.
'Does Ryo like/not like _____?' The only person who should be answering these sorts of questions is me. I pride myself on being upfront and explaining how I feel about things, and I very rarely get rattled by questions people ask me; in fact I love it when people are upfront with me too. I may not always like the questions asked, but I will always answer them. When I find out that others have been discussing me in this sort of way I just sit there and freak out about what else has been discussed and whether it's actually accurate or not because despite what people might like to think--
--they don't know me that well.
*sigh*