A dilemma of selfish proportions

[rose_in_shadow]

It turns out that my roommate and I are interested in finding a church which has single people our age. We both go to different churches that are low in these types of people. My main problem was that though I like my church and the friends that I've made there... it's a small church and all the guys within reasonable marrying age are married

Comments

[blindaurora]

1. I have no idea what a vineyard church is, but it sounds fun. I would caution you, though, about going to a worship service for purposes other than worshiping. You know what I mean? It just might be slightly spiritually compromising. But I hear you on the Christian men above the age of 18 and NOT married hunt. Or even the Christian friends in a worship community over 18 and not married hunt.

2. I completely understand your feelings about hanging out with HOTROOMATE. I have a couple of girlfriends that this happens with as well, (i.e. I am alone, total silence. I am with one of them, men appear out of the woodwork. Clamoring for a date.) Pray for serenity and grace about this. I mean... You are a vibrant, intelligent, interesting, creative, funny, and spiritually enlightened (not to mention redeemed!) woman. And sooner or later, you will find the right man for you! But in the mean time, it can all be rather frustrating and nerve wracking, and all that. And that is where God's grace comes in. To remind you of your true value and meaning, lest you forget and start to think that the attention of men can change it.

Good luck, and many blessings on your quest!

[bluemuse1]

i have an encouraging thought for you: the guy God has for you, if he's there, is gonna notice YOU because you are naturally going to be highly attractive to him! :D

[rose_in_shadow]

Vineyard is a non-denominational church, which I normally shy away from, but I'm willing to give them a try. But thank you for your honest counsel--the "spiritually compromising" thing is something I have been worried about for weeks now and just haven't posted about it. I've talked with several friends about it, including two youth pastors' wives, and they all seem to agree that it won't hurt to try another church. I've prayed about it as well--and I don't want to go for the sole purpose of man-hunting. I've been wanting to find another opportunity for worship and this seems like a good one.

Thanks again for your thoughts!