A dilemma of selfish proportions

[rose_in_shadow]

It turns out that my roommate and I are interested in finding a church which has single people our age. We both go to different churches that are low in these types of people. My main problem was that though I like my church and the friends that I've made there... it's a small church and all the guys within reasonable marrying age are married

Comments

[blindaurora]

1. I have no idea what a vineyard church is, but it sounds fun. I would caution you, though, about going to a worship service for purposes other than worshiping. You know what I mean? It just might be slightly spiritually compromising. But I hear you on the Christian men above the age of 18 and NOT married hunt. Or even the Christian friends in a worship community over 18 and not married hunt

[bluemuse1]

i have an encouraging thought for you: the guy God has for you, if he's there, is gonna notice YOU because you are naturally going to be highly attractive to him! :D

[rose_in_shadow]

Vineyard is a non-denominational church, which I normally shy away from, but I'm willing to give them a try. But thank you for your honest counsel--the "spiritually compromising" thing is something I have been worried about for weeks now and just haven't posted about it. I've talked with several friends about it, including two youth pastors' wives, and they all seem to agree that it won't hurt to try another church. I've prayed about it as well--and I don't want to go for the sole purpose of man-hunting. I've been wanting to find another opportunity for worship and this seems like a good one.

Thanks again for your thoughts!

[sartorias]

I'm so glad you found a solution to the church dilemma!

For the other, I sympathize--I used to have a close friend who got all the attention . . . until I realized that those guys were all jerks. Every single one. They were all about appearances--attraction without substance, and poor A couldn't tell the difference because she'd grown up hearing flattery, so it was her natural state.

It took longer for me to meet fellows but the ones who looked past her--who conversed instead of stared--were worth waiting for. (The fellow I eventually married thought A nice, but kind of boring.)

[tristmasjedi]

I can't really be entirely myself around her as much as I would like to. It's a long story.

Your nutcracker theft coming back to haunt you? ;-)

Another word in re your Hot!Roommate getting chatted up: Boys are shy sometimes, particularly the interesting ones (if I do say so myself). You seem like you prefer to have the guy make the move, but don't be afraid to talk to them, particularly if they're standing there looking awkward!

Step 2 is dealing with clueless guys (apply two-by-four firmly to subject's cranium and advise him in set terms to ask you out), but that's advanced material and will have to wait for later.

Or you can just throw rocks at boys until you feel better about the fact that we're all dim and easily distracted.