Comments | romasquerade: glitter on the west streets

romasquerade

glitter on the west streets

Jun 16, 2012 19:01

I am officially moved into my first apartment! That is actually sort of a lie, I have so many boxes and stuff to move tomorrow because the storage people weren't around today, but I have keys and a suitcase in my room and a room and a private bathroom and granite countertops and stainless steel appliances because this place is SO NICE. It's ( Read more... )

real life, trying my hand at this writing thing, asexual stories

Comments 6

harriet_vane June 17 2012, 00:47:09 UTC

I am very very excited about all this fic and potential fic. :D ( ... )

romasquerade June 18 2012, 00:55:22 UTC

SO AM I ( ... )

scoradh June 17 2012, 19:21:20 UTC

I am interesting in asexuality because I know so little about it. Mainly in the difference between sex with others and sex with yourself, and if either or both are not of interest to asexual people?

romasquerade June 18 2012, 03:39:24 UTC

Well that's kind of tricky and I don't think you'd necessarily be able to give a blanket statement for all asexual people in that regard. In general asexual is defined as "not sexually attracted to other people," but that is not to say that the person doesn't ever want to have sex, if that makes sense! So the only thing that being asexual really ... HAS to mean, insofar as any sexual identity has to mean anything, is that you aren't... Hmm, this is tough to explain. Personally, a lack of sexual attraction to me means that I never feel compelled to have sex, I don't ever see anybody and feel like I want to, there's nothing in the back or front of my mind that's thinking about the sex I might someday have. Of course, 'sexual attraction' is different to different people, but if whatever it is to you is something that you don't feel, that's all that being asexual really is ( ... )

scoradh June 18 2012, 20:50:35 UTC

I think it's fascinating! I personally - and I don't mean to preach, or whatevs - think that asexuality helps make people more aware of the sort of fluidity of sexuality, how you don't decide aged 18 what you are forever. Of course a lot of people accept what they're open to (and maybe in asexual cases, not open to) but that is subject to change! And because asexuality seems to mean 'lack of interest in sex with any gender' it can also maybe mean that when asexual people do have sex, they temporarily switch to being gay or straight - a sexual orientation, I mean. And switch back. Pretty much the way anyone can and would if the social situation was amenable. I don't know if I'm talking out of my ass here so feel free to tell me so! Or just tell me of the great beauty that is Harry Styles. I nearly bought Dare to Dream today! I could not, however, for the shame was just too much.

romasquerade June 19 2012, 04:11:10 UTC

Hmm. I've been thinking about this all day and something about it has seemed a little off. I think where you might be misunderstanding something here is in that ... asexual does not really mean a lack of interest in sex? An interest in sex and being sexually attracted to other people are two different things, although for most people they're so linked that it doesn't seem like it! Having sex doesn't suddenly make you not asexual any more than having sex with a woman would make a gay man straight, for example. Does that make sense? I hope I'm being clear!!

Harry Styles FACE THO. It may or may not actually bring me to tears on a daily basis (it does). It's really only a matter of time before I buy Dare to Dream myself. mockturtletale scanned a bunch of the pages for me for ~research purposes, but it isn't going to suffice soon. (Un)fortunately, I am shameless when it comes to these boys. ;______________;