friendship vectors and networks
Serious question: How do *you* make friends?
A friend observed last night that all of my friends (in Melbourne) were burners, and asked whether I felt like this was sufficiently diverse for my friendship needs, suggesting that maybe it's a bit of an echo chamber.
It got me to thinking how people come into my life and how I choose which ones I keep. Here, it is a function of my entry to melbourne--I knew burners here, and then I met their friends, and then I met their friends. Through this I ended up in meatspace with people, working on shared projects, and friendships developed. I meet a LOT of people, but it is through extended or repeated interactions that I develop a sense of intimacy with them. And most of my repeat and or extended activities are Burner-related. Do I need to shift that?
[The defensive part of me feels like I meet a more diverse group of people this way (and many of them are only incidentally burners), but it is undeniable that we have a big thing in common, and when we group, conversation drifts toward that.]
A friend observed last night that all of my friends (in Melbourne) were burners, and asked whether I felt like this was sufficiently diverse for my friendship needs, suggesting that maybe it's a bit of an echo chamber.
It got me to thinking how people come into my life and how I choose which ones I keep. Here, it is a function of my entry to melbourne--I knew burners here, and then I met their friends, and then I met their friends. Through this I ended up in meatspace with people, working on shared projects, and friendships developed. I meet a LOT of people, but it is through extended or repeated interactions that I develop a sense of intimacy with them. And most of my repeat and or extended activities are Burner-related. Do I need to shift that?
[The defensive part of me feels like I meet a more diverse group of people this way (and many of them are only incidentally burners), but it is undeniable that we have a big thing in common, and when we group, conversation drifts toward that.]