Oh my goodness, I just fell into a meta-link spiral from days past. Fun! I love stumbling across new things, too, as well as the classics which are always worth another read. (And it's sometimes nice to re-read your own stuff from the distance provided by a few years gone by and think 'hey that was kinda insightful and well-said'.)
Also, not sure if you're familiar with aerintine/Jamie (she was leaving Buffy fandom around the time you were joining it), but she wrote an absolutely wonderful Buffy & Tara fic, Please Don't Forgive Me, which I just know you'd adore.
WAIT. I just scrolled down to the comments and I see YOU commenting on that fic. OF COURSE. That short little fic left such an impression on me that when I saw you talking about Buffy & Tara, I immediately thought of it.
(Wow, this post has now led to me looking into old meta posts and comments on my friends journals from, like, 2010.)
Thanks so much hon for stopping by! Have you read my Buffy & Tara meta yet from the other day? I'm really very pleased with the response it's gotten. fray_adjacent even created some new female centric icons like the "Family" one I'm using right now. there are fans interested in the ladies, it's just so easy to fall into the same old riffs (ie Buffy & Spike, etc) Even I'm guilty of it.
I just scrolled down to the comments and I see YOU commenting on that fic. OF COURSE.
The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.) But I had forgotten about it, isn't that awful? I should do a Buffy & Tara rec list. It's hard ruuger asked for some recs on the subject a few months back and I didn't have much to offer. On AO3 when i put in Buffy/Tara I got 25 fics the other day. Put them in as individual characters and you get all the thousands of fics that happen to have both of them listed but don't necessary have them interacting
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I haven't read it yet, alas! I've been a bit mentally exhausted, but it's on my list, it just my take me awhile. :)
The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.)
Thankfully, Jamie got loads of comments from the Bechdel Comment Ficathon where it was originally posted. And that's actually her first fic she'd ever written (and I remember tempting her into giving this a go? So part of me wants to TAKE CREDIT lol but no she's brilliant), so she might not have been on folks' radars yet. But still, it's glorious and more people should read it.
And I'm puzzled - "Tara and Spike" or "Tara/Spike" shows up a lot more in fandom
You know what, tho? I imagine that's because Tara and Spike were the partners on the receiving end of abuse (at least, if one fails to recognize how equally bad Buffy and Spike were to each other). So I imagine it's very much 'these two deserve better and they deserve better
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I imagine that's because Tara and Spike were the partners on the receiving end of abuse (at least, if one fails to recognize how equally bad Buffy and Spike were to each other). Oh and THAT just puzzles me to no end. W/T does not = B/S, although the relationships are paralle, they are not the exact same power dynamic. I said a while back on one of my earlier metas that I thought the B/S relationship was mutually abusive (but they are both consenting participants in a very unhealthy dynamic); while Willow/Tara are coded as being somewhat more similar to the common cultural conception of abusive relationships: the stronger abuser/weaker victim scenario. (Which is true in many instances but is not the whole truth
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message from Ray in ScotlandangeariaDecember 18 2013, 15:20:09 UTC
Hi,
trying this again. Angearia, if you go to my kerkevik lj; thence to July 21st, you will find what was a belated birthday fic for you. I hope you enjoy what you find there, and my apologies to Red Satin Doll for hijacking this post. I hope you'll forgive me.
Re: message from Ray in Scotlandred_satin_dollDecember 18 2013, 18:37:19 UTC
No worries and all is forgiven - but probably not best to use this thread for such purposes in future.
ETA: I thought for some reason Emmie's angearia's account was purged but I was mistaken. If you want her to see this message best put her name in as an active link as I just did (assuming she receives email notifications.)
Also, not sure if you're familiar with aerintine/Jamie (she was leaving Buffy fandom around the time you were joining it), but she wrote an absolutely wonderful Buffy & Tara fic, Please Don't Forgive Me, which I just know you'd adore.
WAIT. I just scrolled down to the comments and I see YOU commenting on that fic. OF COURSE. That short little fic left such an impression on me that when I saw you talking about Buffy & Tara, I immediately thought of it.
(Wow, this post has now led to me looking into old meta posts and comments on my friends journals from, like, 2010.)
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I just scrolled down to the comments and I see YOU commenting on that fic. OF COURSE.
The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.) But I had forgotten about it, isn't that awful? I should do a Buffy & Tara rec list. It's hard ruuger asked for some recs on the subject a few months back and I didn't have much to offer. On AO3 when i put in Buffy/Tara I got 25 fics the other day. Put them in as individual characters and you get all the thousands of fics that happen to have both of them listed but don't necessary have them interacting ( ... )
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The funny thing is I'd forgotten that until just now - it was almost a year ago that I commented. (And I was the only person to comment - which proves my POINT! This cannot stand.)
Thankfully, Jamie got loads of comments from the Bechdel Comment Ficathon where it was originally posted. And that's actually her first fic she'd ever written (and I remember tempting her into giving this a go? So part of me wants to TAKE CREDIT lol but no she's brilliant), so she might not have been on folks' radars yet. But still, it's glorious and more people should read it.
And I'm puzzled - "Tara and Spike" or "Tara/Spike" shows up a lot more in fandom
You know what, tho? I imagine that's because Tara and Spike were the partners on the receiving end of abuse (at least, if one fails to recognize how equally bad Buffy and Spike were to each other). So I imagine it's very much 'these two deserve better and they deserve better ( ... )
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trying this again. Angearia, if you go to my kerkevik lj; thence to July 21st, you will find what was a belated birthday fic for you. I hope you enjoy what you find there, and my apologies to Red Satin Doll for hijacking this post. I hope you'll forgive me.
Best wishes,
Ray.
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ETA: I thought for some reason Emmie's angearia's account was purged but I was mistaken. If you want her to see this message best put her name in as an active link as I just did (assuming she receives email notifications.)
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