Why can we forgive and still love?
I just talked to an old friend of mine who I haven't spoken to in a while. She informed me that her husband had been not coming home, staying at womens houses and had currently moved out giving her the explanation that he's not sure if he wants to be married. Yet she still loves him and wishes that he realized that he still cares for her and ect.
This blew me away. How is it that men can hurt us to no end: hit us, cheat, scream, yell, completely degrate us; and yet we can still manage to forgive them and find it in us to love them? Is it b/c we are a helpless dependent specises? B/c we don't feel complete unless we have a partner? B/c we are afraid to be alone?
I don't know the answer. But what I do know is that men are so very lucky. Men can do the wrost things to us and yet we will take them back forgive and forget, and continue to love them unconditionaly. Why can't men see how amazing that is? Why can't they realize how much strength and forgiveness that takes? And most of all why can't they realize how amazing we are as women to have the ability to do that?
(As a complete side note, also the reason for the perinthesis, hearing so many horrible relationship stories; and having been through one. All these things have turned me into such a bitter man hating person. I've become someone I never wanted to. And I dread the day that I am the age of 40 bitter and alone. All hope for true love has been lost and I fear it will never be found again. (Look what you have done to me.))
This blew me away. How is it that men can hurt us to no end: hit us, cheat, scream, yell, completely degrate us; and yet we can still manage to forgive them and find it in us to love them? Is it b/c we are a helpless dependent specises? B/c we don't feel complete unless we have a partner? B/c we are afraid to be alone?
I don't know the answer. But what I do know is that men are so very lucky. Men can do the wrost things to us and yet we will take them back forgive and forget, and continue to love them unconditionaly. Why can't men see how amazing that is? Why can't they realize how much strength and forgiveness that takes? And most of all why can't they realize how amazing we are as women to have the ability to do that?
(As a complete side note, also the reason for the perinthesis, hearing so many horrible relationship stories; and having been through one. All these things have turned me into such a bitter man hating person. I've become someone I never wanted to. And I dread the day that I am the age of 40 bitter and alone. All hope for true love has been lost and I fear it will never be found again. (Look what you have done to me.))