TransAmerica, clubbin' and dilemma
so i went out with my friend Jerald (or JB as i like to call him b/c i don't particularly like the name Jerald). we saw the movie TransAmerica which is SOOOOOOOOOOOO MUTHAFUCKIN' good. EVERYONE GO OUT AND SEE IT NOW!!!!!!! it's SOOOOOOOOO much better than Brokeback Mountain in my humble opinion. there's SO much more to it. and there isn't all this hype about it, although i wish it were more mainstream. my roommates nor my friend Jessica had heard of it even though Felicity Huffman from Desperate Housewives is nominated for academy awards. Felicity Huffman is really good in it, even though i wish they had an actual transgender woman play the part, but still i was impressed. they must've done a lot with prosthetics for her. so yeah this film has it all. queerness, level-4 veganism (not eating anything that casts a shadow), nudity, romance, American Indians, and humour. Bree (Felicity Huffman) has this really dry sense of humor, but i think it worked well. and it's such a great representation of a trans person since a lot of people picture them as drag queens or sex workers, not that there is anything wrong with drag queen performers or sex workers, but it's nice to have diversity of representation. and the guy who plays her son is really cute even though he is jail bate (17) but he's probably older in real life.
ok, so then JB and i went clubbin' at this club called Faces. our budget-asses rushed (and i'm talking ran) to get in before 10 so we would only have to pay $3 instead of $8. so i've been to this club before with my roommate for Karaoke, a strip show, and drag shows, but this was my first night for dancin'. it was fun, a typical club night. i danced quite a bit which was good exercise. but, here's my dilemma. ok, so i think JB is a cool guy, sweet, funny, but two or three times he said "love ya" when we were ending a phone conversation. then tonight he grinded up on me several times (i'm talkin' 10 or 12 times). and i'm used to that from Curtis. we grinded on each other, but it was all in good fun, but JB was taking it a bit far, doing it really hard (i think he may have punctured my scrotum, ok, j/k j/k) and even kinda kissing my neck, and he grabbed my ass, like including the crack. and then when we were walking back to our cars, he grabbed my ass again. then when we said bye, he gave me a long hug and a kiss which he said "was a peck that he gives all his friends." still, i gotta wonder what's going on here. i think he may be interested in me, even though i thought he was dating some guy and he did have a boyfriend when i first met him. the thing is, i'm not interested in him, PLUS i'm still under my self-imposed celibacy period for another 16 days. yeah, i know it's sad, i'm starting to count it down.
there is seriously temptation all around me.i enrolled one of my clients in a weights and fitness class at a community college here in Sac-town called American River College so i take him there and he has to get changed out of his jeans for the class so i go in the locker room and there's all these guys changing and getting naked and taking showers. if that weren't enough but right outside the locker room before we get to the class is the swimming pool so there's hotties in speedos. then there's all the hotties at the club. when my roommate and i were at Faces for the drag show last Sunday this guy started talking to my roommate and had him introduce us. he goes "so you're from Atlanta?" and i said "yeah" and he said "so do you have a southern drawl?" i replied "not really" and i guess he could tell i wasn't interested b/c he just stop talking to me. whatev, that was such a bad opening, about the southern drawl. people just don't understand that Atlanta people usually do not have the stereotypical southern accent. the interesting thing about Faces is that there seems to be lot of straight couples in there. i was lookin' at this dude all night long, but he kept dancing with girls. and then this other guy who JB knows had his straight roommate there. well, i guess Nicole will be glad about that if/when she comes to visit me.
so what should i do about JB? just let it slide and hope for the best? or confront him about how i think he overstepped the bounds with the dancing? i mean, i saw him dancing with other people, too, so i think he does that with a lot of people, but it was A LOT with me. should i ask if he likes me, and then tell him i'm not interested and that i'm in a self-imposed celibacy period?
ok, so then JB and i went clubbin' at this club called Faces. our budget-asses rushed (and i'm talking ran) to get in before 10 so we would only have to pay $3 instead of $8. so i've been to this club before with my roommate for Karaoke, a strip show, and drag shows, but this was my first night for dancin'. it was fun, a typical club night. i danced quite a bit which was good exercise. but, here's my dilemma. ok, so i think JB is a cool guy, sweet, funny, but two or three times he said "love ya" when we were ending a phone conversation. then tonight he grinded up on me several times (i'm talkin' 10 or 12 times). and i'm used to that from Curtis. we grinded on each other, but it was all in good fun, but JB was taking it a bit far, doing it really hard (i think he may have punctured my scrotum, ok, j/k j/k) and even kinda kissing my neck, and he grabbed my ass, like including the crack. and then when we were walking back to our cars, he grabbed my ass again. then when we said bye, he gave me a long hug and a kiss which he said "was a peck that he gives all his friends." still, i gotta wonder what's going on here. i think he may be interested in me, even though i thought he was dating some guy and he did have a boyfriend when i first met him. the thing is, i'm not interested in him, PLUS i'm still under my self-imposed celibacy period for another 16 days. yeah, i know it's sad, i'm starting to count it down.
there is seriously temptation all around me.i enrolled one of my clients in a weights and fitness class at a community college here in Sac-town called American River College so i take him there and he has to get changed out of his jeans for the class so i go in the locker room and there's all these guys changing and getting naked and taking showers. if that weren't enough but right outside the locker room before we get to the class is the swimming pool so there's hotties in speedos. then there's all the hotties at the club. when my roommate and i were at Faces for the drag show last Sunday this guy started talking to my roommate and had him introduce us. he goes "so you're from Atlanta?" and i said "yeah" and he said "so do you have a southern drawl?" i replied "not really" and i guess he could tell i wasn't interested b/c he just stop talking to me. whatev, that was such a bad opening, about the southern drawl. people just don't understand that Atlanta people usually do not have the stereotypical southern accent. the interesting thing about Faces is that there seems to be lot of straight couples in there. i was lookin' at this dude all night long, but he kept dancing with girls. and then this other guy who JB knows had his straight roommate there. well, i guess Nicole will be glad about that if/when she comes to visit me.
so what should i do about JB? just let it slide and hope for the best? or confront him about how i think he overstepped the bounds with the dancing? i mean, i saw him dancing with other people, too, so i think he does that with a lot of people, but it was A LOT with me. should i ask if he likes me, and then tell him i'm not interested and that i'm in a self-imposed celibacy period?