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one of the things i really like about my life right now is the learning. i am constantly learning new things. the learning process isn't always easy - in fact sometimes it's sucky and/or painful and/or ridiculous. but, i am still advancing, and that is good.
i have often heard it said that one should not do business with family/close friends. i now know first hand why they say this. it doesn't matter how strongly you believe you're the exception to the rule, the rule will still apply to you 99.99% of the time. i learned this the hard way. i now know that any work with family/friends should be treated like any other work - contracts apply, deadlines apply, and you can't trust someone to deliver just because you like them.
i'm finally in the resolution process with a very close family friend. last night was the first major step toward resolution and i could not have taken it without help (ty monkey!). i was worried she'd flat out refuse to pay me, but i had a feeling she'd offer to pay me some of what she owed. my instincts were dead on, and after hearing that news, 5+ weeks of pent up stress and anxiety was finally able to start exiting my system. it's still exiting, but the majority of it happened last night, and it's nice to feel cheerful again. also, it's nice to not have a roiling, anxious stomach as my default setting.
the entire time i was dealing/waiting/fuming about that business situation, i was keenly aware it was A Learning Experience, and there was nothing i could do except hang on until the ride was over. that was the first time in my life i was able to identify A Learning Experience without the aid of hindsight and, despite the major suck involved, i am proud i kept my cool and stood up for myself and my business. i believe i would have caved in the past, to avoid stress or the feeling of personal failure.
moving on...
i signed many, many important legal papers last night, all pertaining to applying for a home loan. everyone feels the loan process will go more smoothly if i'm on the mortgage. while this was not what i originally wanted, i'm sure it will help in the long run. if danny is able to turn the papers in today, we should have an answer in 45-60 days. after a year of waiting, i thought i'd be more excited, but really, i just want to know one way or another. i can only take so much waiting before my head feels like it will pop off.
love kittie
i have often heard it said that one should not do business with family/close friends. i now know first hand why they say this. it doesn't matter how strongly you believe you're the exception to the rule, the rule will still apply to you 99.99% of the time. i learned this the hard way. i now know that any work with family/friends should be treated like any other work - contracts apply, deadlines apply, and you can't trust someone to deliver just because you like them.
i'm finally in the resolution process with a very close family friend. last night was the first major step toward resolution and i could not have taken it without help (ty monkey!). i was worried she'd flat out refuse to pay me, but i had a feeling she'd offer to pay me some of what she owed. my instincts were dead on, and after hearing that news, 5+ weeks of pent up stress and anxiety was finally able to start exiting my system. it's still exiting, but the majority of it happened last night, and it's nice to feel cheerful again. also, it's nice to not have a roiling, anxious stomach as my default setting.
the entire time i was dealing/waiting/fuming about that business situation, i was keenly aware it was A Learning Experience, and there was nothing i could do except hang on until the ride was over. that was the first time in my life i was able to identify A Learning Experience without the aid of hindsight and, despite the major suck involved, i am proud i kept my cool and stood up for myself and my business. i believe i would have caved in the past, to avoid stress or the feeling of personal failure.
moving on...
i signed many, many important legal papers last night, all pertaining to applying for a home loan. everyone feels the loan process will go more smoothly if i'm on the mortgage. while this was not what i originally wanted, i'm sure it will help in the long run. if danny is able to turn the papers in today, we should have an answer in 45-60 days. after a year of waiting, i thought i'd be more excited, but really, i just want to know one way or another. i can only take so much waiting before my head feels like it will pop off.
love kittie