Tomorrow is D-Day

[eva_dream_seer]

Hey all

Comments

[herloved_beauty]

I have not actually had a C-section, but my mother has had two. Her advice is:

Get up and move around as much as possible in the hospital. It will help the soreness a LOT and will help you be okay with moving around once you get home with baby.

[eva_dream_seer]

Walking around is a great idea! I wonder if you can shower after you have one? Thanks!

[firecracker725]

Yes! The very next day, and though standing hurts like hell, the water feels great.

[eva_dream_seer]

Warm water is always nice huh?

[willsjoy]

I have no advice for a c-section. I will say that most first babies do not engage until you are in active labor and getting closer to pushing. I do not understand "baby will not stay engaged before you are in labor."

Just my 2 cents.

[willsjoy]

That should say: do not understand "baby will not stay engaged before you are in labor" as a reason for a scheduled section. I should read before I hit post.

[thiscantbesoy]

To the contrary, most first-time babies do engage well before labor (usually two weeks before). It's many second or later babies who do not engage until during active labor.

That said, I don't understand the OP's or her doctor's reasons for the C-section either, since the baby isn't in distress and may very well engage one of these days, but that's beside the point, I guess.

[willsjoy]

I guess I had it backwards. It's 2nd babies that typically don't engage. I should get my facts straight! Thank you. :)

But I agree with you. A friend on mine was just induced because she was "overdue" and was told her baby would be close to 9 lbs....an emergency C later, she had her son....all 7 lbs, 14 oz of him. :)

[firecracker725]

Move as much as possible. Take the pain meds on a schedule for the first three days, and take care of yourself. Let the nursery take the baby when you need to rest. I felt guilty doing that, but it helped so much to be rested.

[eva_dream_seer]

Thank you! Those are great ideas, cant be a good mama without some rest!

[eva_dream_seer]

That is all great advice thanks! I think letting the nursery help out is a great idea. I will need to be a well rested mommy. I am glad I have my family helping out though. :)

[rock_grrl]

Except that is a GREAT way to screw up your breastfeeding relationship. Nurseries can give formula or soothers without consent. As well, newborns need to nurse a LOT in order to help your milk come in and establish your supply.

But, if you don't want to breastfeed, go for it. Just please don't start saying you "couldn't" breastfeed after the fact, okay?

[sxdx]

I agree. Add to it that it isn't even a real reason. :/

You'll likely get more judgement than advice for having an elective c-section.

[hadthelastdance]

I agree with this.

[eva_dream_seer]

I see your point, but I figured some would ask anyway so I just put in what is going on. I guess, to me, it is a personal decision that everyone woman makes for themselves and their child and just because someone disagrees with it does not mean it is wrong.

[ahavah]

I think most people are just chiming in because of the overwhelming "once a cesarean, always a cesarean" mentality in the medical establishment. I saw your original post and decided not to comment, since I have not had experience with a cesarean and also felt your doctor was giving you a sketchy reason. I guess what I'm saying now is don't look at it as people judging you, but legitimately caring for your best interests.

I wish you the best of luck! Only advice I have is maybe consider a postpartum doula for help during your first week, so you can focus on healing & bonding with the baby.

[eva_dream_seer]

Thank you so much! I was looking at a doula when I was living in Texas, but now I am living with family in PA. I will have many people with me at all times, which I am hoping will be a great help. :)

[ahavah]

Awesome! That should hopefully be a big help. The less housework/cooking/etc. you need to worry about, the better. Hope you'll keep us posted!

[eva_dream_seer]

I will thank you ! :)