What is marriage?

Whether you've been married 5 days or 50 years, marriage was and is defined by God for some specific purposes.  For the young it includes the possibility of children.  For all ages it is to be for an intimate oneness and companionship that cannot be found in any other relationship including the sisterhood like that between ( Read more... )

The Bible records in John 11:35, "Jesus wept" on hearing that His friend Lazarus had died.    I believe it's safe to consider that Jesus had a strong friendship with Lazarus, and before he became King, David's relationship with Jonathan knit them together like brothers.


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Monthly Marriage Fitness Center letter - January 2015

Relational Drift

The natural occurrence of relationships is to either work at them by spending time connecting, or seeing them drift apart.  Think back on your relationships with family members, childhood and adolescent friends, and ponder which you are well connected with now, and what the ( Read more... )

Monthly Marriage Fitness Center letter - December 2014

The Heart of Christ

There are several people in my normal circle of friends who seem to come AT me in discussions, and I then find myself
responding slowly or entirely missing ( Read more... )

Our Attitude Says a Lot About Our Character


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New Blog post for September: https://farroutcoachingnotes.wordpress.com/2014/09/

Last month I wrote about “fulfilling the minimal requirement for getting into heaven”, and suggested that the phrase might well stir our hearts dissatisfaction if we live with that view instead of being conformed to the image of Christ and transformed by the renewing of our minds.

As Dallas Willard says that mindset most often is a stirring of ( Read more... )

Strange that it might seem, for the most part Americans today, are more concerned with whether the other person in a relationship will change - not as God tells us throughout scriptures, that we are responsible only for our own changes, NOT anyone else’s.

We all have expectations in life and many are what we expect of others.  All too often we ( Read more... )

How often it’s more like Another Marriage Unraveled by the Mysteries of Life - but the truth is that while marriage takes hard work, in the end - it’s still pretty straight-forward.   We have been called individually to a life of holiness.   If that becomes the sincere goal in our life, then the rest truly does fall well into place.

It gave ( Read more... )