joreth has just written a passionate essay about why everything I said here was bullshit.

Dear me. I think I'm about to cry!

Or, you know, not.

Actually, I'm really surprised by my feelings on this -- usually, I would really want to argue, I'd spend hours writing wordy replies and exchanging ideas, involving other people into the discussion, trying to learn ( Read more... )

Huh. I just accidentally found something I wrote almost three years ago, and didn't publish for some reason. Here it is -- my opinion didn't change since then ( Read more... )

Most of my problems with monogamy are not with monogamy per se, but with the way that it is commonly implemented. For example, a big pet peeve of mine is the unrealistic expectation that people in happy relationships will never be attracted to someone else. Dan Savage rants about it here much better than I would (in reply to a letter from a woman ( Read more... )

My good friend, emi_ka, told me once: “You know, I suspect that people who are not like you or Danny only attempt open relationships to please their partner, which brings them a lot of suffering and usually ends very badly”.

By “like you or Danny” my friend meant people to whom open relationships are natural - people who were seemingly born without the ( Read more... )

Dating is beginning a relationship with an expectation (or, rather, an assumption) that it will become romantic. And I can’t do that! I can’t expect to be romantically involved with someone before I get to know them. And this is all dating is about - you don’t yet know the person, but you’re seeing them with the explicit and mutually acknowledged ( Read more... )