Whatever you do, I'd start by motherfucking not stereotyping other people yourself if you don't want to be stereotyped yourself.
Your comes across as very judgemental of what you consider to be stereotypical behaviour of gay people ("I don't get fancying stereotypical gay guys" - guess what, stereotypes never apply completely to a person, so you wouldn't have to get that), what you think gay people look like ("I look like a lesbian and I don't wanna!" - there is no way lesbians look like, thank you very much, so no, you don't look like one), and what you think is stereotypical behaviour of women ("faffing" - really? Why are you these people's friend?).
A sensitive straight guy who likes guys?! Probably. What speaks against that? :)
"I don't get fancying stereotypical gay guys" - I never said that.. you did. Ok, but then what does this: "But I also can't relate to being gay or particularly fancying gay guys.. (at least not stereotypically gay guys) " mean, if not what I said? Because I read it as that.
Also, I don't wanna look like a lesbian... am I not allowed to say that?! You're allowed to say whatever you want, but saying that implies that there is one way lesbians look, so saying that makes you sound like a huge stereotyping jerk who can't tell the difference between gender expression/presentation and sexual orientation, or at least doesn't bother to word things more accurately. If that's what you're aiming at, great. Otherwise, a different wording would be in order.
I didn't set out to offend, I was merely voicing the dominant cultural associations that go along with some of these things, and saying that I feel I can't relate to that.I know you didn't mean to offend, and I didn't set out to be offended, but seriously, how did you arrive at the
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It just means that I find it hard to connect with the perceived culture. Just like I find it hard to access this 'girly' stuff, the stuff that goes with being a woman.. again, this is not to say every girl is girly, of course not.. I'm not for a start! But it's the dominant cultural perception, which permeates every aspect of our lives and makes it so hard to be yourself.
I'm sorry you find what I say so offensive, I truly didn't set out to offend. But these cultural messages are very real, it's what makes us so uncomfortable being who we are in our own bodies. Sorry if you can't see that.
I know what you mean, I don't approve of your way of stereotyping other people to describe your experience compared to that. As for the reality of cultural messages - what on earth gives you the impression that I can't? I'm just pissed off at the way you use them to describe other people. Who wants to be reduced to a stereotype, even if stereotypes do exist? Why is reduction to that stereotype helpful, even if they are very real? Why is it necessary for you to perpetuate these stereotypes in your post if you don't approve of them yourself?
That is to say, you can say that something is not for you without dismissing the experience of others. Stereotypes are never, ever helpful. They always reduce and other the people they are describing.
Your comes across as very judgemental of what you consider to be stereotypical behaviour of gay people ("I don't get fancying stereotypical gay guys" - guess what, stereotypes never apply completely to a person, so you wouldn't have to get that), what you think gay people look like ("I look like a lesbian and I don't wanna!" - there is no way lesbians look like, thank you very much, so no, you don't look like one), and what you think is stereotypical behaviour of women ("faffing" - really? Why are you these people's friend?).
A sensitive straight guy who likes guys?!
Probably. What speaks against that? :)
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Ok, but then what does this: "But I also can't relate to being gay or particularly fancying gay guys.. (at least not stereotypically gay guys)
" mean, if not what I said? Because I read it as that.
Also, I don't wanna look like a lesbian... am I not allowed to say that?!
You're allowed to say whatever you want, but saying that implies that there is one way lesbians look, so saying that makes you sound like a huge stereotyping jerk who can't tell the difference between gender expression/presentation and sexual orientation, or at least doesn't bother to word things more accurately. If that's what you're aiming at, great. Otherwise, a different wording would be in order.
I didn't set out to offend, I was merely voicing the dominant cultural associations that go along with some of these things, and saying that I feel I can't relate to that.I know you didn't mean to offend, and I didn't set out to be offended, but seriously, how did you arrive at the ( ... )
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I'm sorry you find what I say so offensive, I truly didn't set out to offend. But these cultural messages are very real, it's what makes us so uncomfortable being who we are in our own bodies. Sorry if you can't see that.
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