Multiple things can be simultaneously true. In this case, I am saddened to hear that another young child was abused by a member of the church, while also being heartsick to think of any person who is suicidal, while also knowing this particular human deserves to be significantly and permanently punished by the pain he inflicted on others.
Also, if you are someone being triggered by this due to having been harmed and/or suicidal, please do seek help via any of the free lifelines available in your area or nation. You didn't deserve what happened to you, you do deserve to be happy, you matter, and you are wanted here. <3
Yes both things can be true but they're also two completely different issues. He doesn't get any sympathy points from me because no matter how much abuse he suffered in the hands of the church, it does not lessen any of the damage or trauma his victims have suffered directly from him. He doesn't get to work out his demons by exercising them on other people. Yes, he should absolutely seek therapy but he it's absolutely grotesque of him to think he deserves any type of shot or platform in Hollywood again, especially when POCs have been pushed put for much less
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This is why things can be true simultaneously. I don't have to be neutral to someone being harmed by clergy in order to believe the person deserves just punishment for his horrific behavior. I don't have to think he deserves no punishment because he endured horrible abuse.
Also, while he is unlikely to see my thoughts, other victims/survivors of clergy abuse and/or child abuse may and I'll never downplay my hatred of what happened to them, regardless of what monster behavior this human exhibited later.
As for the rest, I want to argue with you and for you to be wrong so so so much... but we both know how this goes. Sigh.
MTE. I don't want to go into it, but I had a rough time of it with an ex who wants to repair things in some capacity. He will blame other circumstances that are no doubt tragic and heart breaking, but like- that doesn't give you the right to harm more people especially people who had nothing to do with the terrible things that happened in the past; in the case of the ex, me.
I'm so sorry that happened to you and admire your strength not to let his prior manipulative behaviors send you back to him. I've had such things too; my heart breaks for their experiences and also there is zero chance I want anything to do with them because their hurt doesn't mean I have to be hurt.
Also, if you are someone being triggered by this due to having been harmed and/or suicidal, please do seek help via any of the free lifelines available in your area or nation. You didn't deserve what happened to you, you do deserve to be happy, you matter, and you are wanted here. <3
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Also, while he is unlikely to see my thoughts, other victims/survivors of clergy abuse and/or child abuse may and I'll never downplay my hatred of what happened to them, regardless of what monster behavior this human exhibited later.
As for the rest, I want to argue with you and for you to be wrong so so so much... but we both know how this goes. Sigh.
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I'm actually willing to engage with this ex and even rebuild things even platonically, but he can't keep pulling the same shit over and over again.
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