FKA Twigs sits down with Gayle King to discuss abuse

[tabloidpersona]

Gayle King asks FKA Twigs why didn’t she leave her relationship with Shia LaBeouf

“I’m not going to answer that question anymore because the question should really be to the abuser, why are you holding someone hostage?” pic.twitter.com/6gzXGKOiVJ
- philip lewis (@Phil_Lewis_) February 18, 2021
FKA Twigs did a sit-down interview with Gayle King to

Comments

[genbu_no_miko24]

I like how Gayle framed the questioned and then how Twigs answered it.

It was interesting how original statement made it look like he was accepting~ the abuse he was accused of but then "He denies the allegations. His lawyers said the actor "denies, generally and specifically, each and every allegation" in the lawsuit." show he's real feelings.

Gives a nice-looking PR statement but then with the actual facing consequences portion....cowardly denies everything like a true abuser.



And a more shallow note she looks really pretty lol. She also sounds exactly how she looks lol.

[moonisaballoon]

I agree re: Gayle's framing of the question.

The sad thing is that the mainstream media still thinks that it's a valid question to ask, so Gayle's approach felt like a very purposeful move to give the public what they expected, but pose it in a way that Twigs was set up to really firmly dismantle it from the get-go.

And her response was absolutely everything.

[genbu_no_miko24]

I get why the question is asked because it's easy to think that way when you're not in that situation. This if off but its similar how to when you're watching a horror or survival film and you scream at the character "OMG YOU IDIOT DON'T DO THAT!! RUN!! LEAVE!! GET OUT" or "Pfft what and idiot I wouldn't have done that!" but like lol you don't have to time in a life or death situation and it's only a few people who can activate that fight or flight response instantly.

But interviewers can be callous about that cause they would just randomly ask actresses if they had be been harassed or assaulted during the metoo movement on the spot. Obviously the curiosity runs through the mind but thats not really fair to the person who may have been assaulted and now you're triggering them on the spot.

[moonisaballoon]

Oh, man. Completely.

The interviews shown in the Britney doc were sobering, and when everyone was like "man, the media was so awful back then...", I was a bit like...yeah - it was. But specifically referencing your point about the #metoo stuff - putting actresses on the spot about potential abuse - I'm also like...have we learnt a whole lot since then?

Apologies if my original point read like I was saying "it's really great Gayle asked that question!" because I totally co-sign your stance that it's completely inappropriate!

[genbu_no_miko24]

Oh no apologies needed I didn't take any wrong way!

I liked that Gayle said it before she asked "if it even appropriate to ask that" because that actually gives more power to someone like Twigs to change the narrative of that question. Cause most interview will just jump to "So what'd you stay?". So I thought it was kind of Gayle to put that out there.

[moonisaballoon]

Agreed - hopefully we see a day where it's eliminated entirely tbh!

[slaughtermatic]

he did about what i expected a narcissist to do, never trust their initial take on responsibility. they can go overboard even, as that gives them a few masochistic pings of pleasure and makes them feel ~above others, score pitypoints, but it soon becomes too real and they just cant stand any actually negative pressure and come back swinging twice as hard. theres no resolution.

[genbu_no_miko24]

Yep. At first I'll admit I thought the statement was decent-ish because it wasn't denying the allegations but then you see the actual legal language and it's like gotcha son of a bitch!

Poor Twigs, honestly that is emotional/psychological abuse OMG ;-;

[slaughtermatic]

i thought my abuser was the most decent man id ever met at first. they can sound more decent than jesus chasing after that specific pity reaction, but when the new brand of dopamine wears off theyre meaner than ever before. its how you just keep hitting new lows with them without noticing. its all a confusing blur you dont process for years after. and its kind of devastating realizing that all the "emotions" the narcissist had for you was for themselves all along, so you dont want to pick it apart. i wish her all the healing and good therapy.

[genbu_no_miko24]

This is honestly valuable information! Seriously Thank You!

I also wish you well on your healing process!! <333*HUGS*<333

[slaughtermatic]

wow thanks a bunch that means a lot bc i never want to come in these posts like woe is me, im always hoping someone is just getting info. i wish id had some. a million hugs for you. 💖💖💖

[genbu_no_miko24]

It is valuable information because for someone like who’s never been in situation like that. It helps because God forbid I’m in that…I have a certain of idea of how manipulative or gaslighting a person could be and possibly get out before it gets worse.

Cause they like to have you lower your defenses and second guess yourself. Knowing some of the clues from what other women have mentioned could help me or someone start casting doubt on a person.

So I do appreciate when people speak out on their terms cause it’s a release for them and a help/warning for others. It’s a valuable service!

[electric_lemur]

This really hit hard. So real. Sending you love ❤️

[stepinsidelove]

I thought his statement was either him being all sorry I'm shitty I'm an ~artiste~ or trying to score woke points for being self-aware. As soon is it looked like there were legal/professional consequences it turned into lol nope. What a shitweasel.

[slaughtermatic]

yepyepyep. shitweasel indeed. its impossible, because part of it is cold calculative sociopathy. and even if i give him the benefit of the doubt of having had a real ounce of regret for a second, responsibility just doesnt work with these violent abusers that have been abused themselves bc theyve never been taught to regulate emotions and deal with being wrong in any small way so every confrontation is torture to them. its so confusing for a person with empathy. poor twigs.

[insomniachobs]

It is super manipulative because it's designed to give them a veneer of self-awareness, remorse and "he's the first to admit he's not perfect" without there ever actually being any true responsibility or accountability. Because in the next breath they then deny everything.