Several people have written to me lately expressing concern because they haven’t heard from me for so long. Note that they think a month is a long time for me. It’s all relative. I suspect that there are other people who don’t think anything about it ( Read more... )

For many years I’ve shared my thoughts, feelings, and experiences with people, first via photocopied letters and newsletters and more recently, since I’ve become computer-enabled, via e-mail, journals, and blogs. From the beginning I’ve received some appreciative responses, some negative feedback, and enormous silence (no reply at all). ( Read more... )

I’ve been continuing to delve into what I consider the core of friendship since I wrote my last blog entry (the one called “Are you my friend?”). I appreciate the people I know (or am getting to know) who have helped me with that and the authors who have written things I’ve found valuable ( Read more... )

Who are my friends? Who are your friends? Am I your friend? Are you mine?

Even more to the point, what is a friend?

For many years I’ve chuckled to myself about how loosely some people use the term “friend.” ( Read more... )

I think it was a mistake to tell you awhile back that I rarely post things other people have written. I’m discovering that that rule boxes me in too much ( Read more... )

I’ve developed a new field of investigation: psycho-archaeology. We who are psycho-archaeologists do archaeological digs into the depths of our consciousness ( Read more... )

I’ve been reading a book the past few days that is speaking loudly to me. It isn’t that I don’t already know some of what the author presents. It’s that there’s enough that I didn’t know and what I do know is organized and presented so well that I love the book. It’s The Relationship Cure by John Gottman, Ph.D ( Read more... )

I have an admission to make. I am a language geek. (Or is it a nerd? I have difficulty distinguishing between those words. And to a language geek/nerd it matters.) I love language. I believe that proficiency with language gives us more power in the world. That’s the reason I, as a substitute teacher, usually choose to take English classes as ( Read more... )

I’ve known her for a few months. We met sometime after A and I broke up. I don’t exactly remember when. We’ve talked some, but never at length, yet we know some pretty personal things about each other. I’m intentionally being vague. You’ll probably understand after you’ve read the rest of this. I’ll call her NK ( Read more... )

Have you ever followed a seemingly unimportant inner urging and found yourself in a significant experience as a result? It just happened with me again early yesterday evening ( Read more... )