Because, God, Somedays My Store of Good Advise is Just Out of Stock
My daughter made my day, yesterday. And then promptly made my heart bleed.
She came up to me as I was doing the dishes, and gave me a big hug.
"What was that for?" I asked
"For being the kind of mom I can talk to. So many of my friends can't talk to their moms like we talk."
"Thank you, sweetie - but what brought this on?"
"One of my friends is having real problems."
"Oh?"
"She's just kinda come to terms with being bi, and she's got no one to talk to but me, and she's terrified of telling her mom, because she's going to be really angry."
See what I mean? Absolutely feel like supermom, only seconds later to come down with a splat. I feel so badly for her friend. S. has gone to the same school since she started daycare, at 3, so we know a lot of these kids and have watched them grow up - and we know the parents, including this particular mom. Unfortunately, this young lady may have significant resistance at home, and I only wish I could help make it easier for her.
I asked S. how she felt about her friend's revelation, and she said "Eh, I knew for a long time before she said anything. It doesn't matter." Can I just say that she is becoming an awesome human being? Somewhere, somehow in all of our fumbling, we did something right.
I wish I could do something to make this easier for both sides, but in this situation, all I can do is watch, and offer her any support I can when she's over. This is a fairly small place, with no real gay awareness (we're just outside the big city, were all those 'weirdos' live) It's very much the kind of place filled with people who think this doesn't happen in their backyard, so there's no clubs or support groups at the schools - at least not at this level. Next year, they're off to high school, and hopefully with it being a bigger pond, there will be more in the way of community for this girl. If not, I may have to see if there's any way to get one started. Anybody here have any experience with this? I'm honestly not even sure how to go about it, other than riding in with trumpets blaring *lol* Probably not the most effect strategy, but at least I have a few months to refine it *laughs*
She came up to me as I was doing the dishes, and gave me a big hug.
"What was that for?" I asked
"For being the kind of mom I can talk to. So many of my friends can't talk to their moms like we talk."
"Thank you, sweetie - but what brought this on?"
"One of my friends is having real problems."
"Oh?"
"She's just kinda come to terms with being bi, and she's got no one to talk to but me, and she's terrified of telling her mom, because she's going to be really angry."
See what I mean? Absolutely feel like supermom, only seconds later to come down with a splat. I feel so badly for her friend. S. has gone to the same school since she started daycare, at 3, so we know a lot of these kids and have watched them grow up - and we know the parents, including this particular mom. Unfortunately, this young lady may have significant resistance at home, and I only wish I could help make it easier for her.
I asked S. how she felt about her friend's revelation, and she said "Eh, I knew for a long time before she said anything. It doesn't matter." Can I just say that she is becoming an awesome human being? Somewhere, somehow in all of our fumbling, we did something right.
I wish I could do something to make this easier for both sides, but in this situation, all I can do is watch, and offer her any support I can when she's over. This is a fairly small place, with no real gay awareness (we're just outside the big city, were all those 'weirdos' live) It's very much the kind of place filled with people who think this doesn't happen in their backyard, so there's no clubs or support groups at the schools - at least not at this level. Next year, they're off to high school, and hopefully with it being a bigger pond, there will be more in the way of community for this girl. If not, I may have to see if there's any way to get one started. Anybody here have any experience with this? I'm honestly not even sure how to go about it, other than riding in with trumpets blaring *lol* Probably not the most effect strategy, but at least I have a few months to refine it *laughs*