It's About Bloody Time....
According to the calendar, it is Wednesday, March 2....again, about five weeks since I posted. In September I posted what was the darkest post of my six year LJ career...but happily, today I can post one of the brightest updates in that same epoch.
I am in a relationship-with my formerly platonic friend Scott. I have a good, good feeling about the entire state of affairs. A brief recap on who he is: I met him on a singles site back in June 2010, and he was a great guy; but I did not at that time feel any physical chemistry towards him. He liked me a lot, but was able to transition into a friendship with me. We became very comfortable, and hung out about once a week after the brief dating stage.
After my brother died in late summer, I took a much-needed hiatus from dating until January...and then realized I was lonely. After five months of mourning, I just knew that I was ready to date again.
My feelings for Scott kind of sneaked up on me; one day in January I looked at him from across the room and thought "What am I doing on EHarmony? I like him; he is everything I could want." I gathered my courage and broached the subject, hoping that he still had feelings for me after nine months. I took the guy by surprise; he had put me into the "Friend Zone" and had to realign his thought process and re evaluate our relationship.
I went to AZ to visit my sister and sister in law in early February-Scott told me that he did like me, but that we would discuss it further upon my return. He picked me up at the airport two weeks ago, and we looked at each other....and just knew.
It's great, because we are so comfortable around one another...there is none of that awkwardness that sometimes comes when you are in the beginning stages of dating someone new. The only real difference between us then and now is our level of physicality. The chemistry that eluded us last summer has tackled us both to the floor in the present...no worries about a mutual attraction. :) Not sure what was missing then, but I will not question the timing. Whatever it was, it's certainly there now, and I plan to enjoy Scott and pursue this relationship with optimism and joy. Wish me luck, my friends.
"I don't care what the neighbors say; I'm gonna love you each and every day." Led Zeppelin "Good Times, Bad Times."
I am in a relationship-with my formerly platonic friend Scott. I have a good, good feeling about the entire state of affairs. A brief recap on who he is: I met him on a singles site back in June 2010, and he was a great guy; but I did not at that time feel any physical chemistry towards him. He liked me a lot, but was able to transition into a friendship with me. We became very comfortable, and hung out about once a week after the brief dating stage.
After my brother died in late summer, I took a much-needed hiatus from dating until January...and then realized I was lonely. After five months of mourning, I just knew that I was ready to date again.
My feelings for Scott kind of sneaked up on me; one day in January I looked at him from across the room and thought "What am I doing on EHarmony? I like him; he is everything I could want." I gathered my courage and broached the subject, hoping that he still had feelings for me after nine months. I took the guy by surprise; he had put me into the "Friend Zone" and had to realign his thought process and re evaluate our relationship.
I went to AZ to visit my sister and sister in law in early February-Scott told me that he did like me, but that we would discuss it further upon my return. He picked me up at the airport two weeks ago, and we looked at each other....and just knew.
It's great, because we are so comfortable around one another...there is none of that awkwardness that sometimes comes when you are in the beginning stages of dating someone new. The only real difference between us then and now is our level of physicality. The chemistry that eluded us last summer has tackled us both to the floor in the present...no worries about a mutual attraction. :) Not sure what was missing then, but I will not question the timing. Whatever it was, it's certainly there now, and I plan to enjoy Scott and pursue this relationship with optimism and joy. Wish me luck, my friends.
"I don't care what the neighbors say; I'm gonna love you each and every day." Led Zeppelin "Good Times, Bad Times."