take this post as you choose.....
In all seriousness I have learned to cherish those friends I have in my life and have gone out of my way to preserve the wonderful relationships that have blossomed from those who I have been fortunate enough to call friends.
I would never be so brazen as to say that there have never been differences or fights. I wont lie and say that I have never made mistakes of hurting those I love.
However, at the worst possible moment when I have wanted to tear into someone I have been reminded to look at what made us friends in the first place. What made me want to extend my hand and heart and say that I'm that persons friend?
It sounds really corny but it sure has kept me from ruining a couple of friendships. From saying things that cannot be taken back and can tear down to the core of a persons soul. I have been guilty of shoving my foot into my mouth so far that it would take a crowbar to remove it and I have regretted those instances years later. But I try and learn from those times... sometimes successfully and other times not so... those are the hardest times.
When something happens to you or your friends, look back for a moment and pull from your memory something so positive about that person that you cant see yourself NOT being a part of that persons life in the future. By the time you have done this, perhaps you will have simmered down a bit and wont be quite so mad at that person.
If you HAVE to choose anger as a way to resolve your issues, be sure you have facts right and that you have room for reconcilliation. DONT sling around threats.. DONT use your words to cut so deep that you can never apologize enough to take away the hurt.... no argument is worth that! You were friends for a reason.. you cared enough once for a reason... remember that.
Please, remember that before you hurt those you love. I have made this mistake too often not to know what Im saying... but if I can remind someone then my mistakes will be worth the price I've paid before you.
I would never be so brazen as to say that there have never been differences or fights. I wont lie and say that I have never made mistakes of hurting those I love.
However, at the worst possible moment when I have wanted to tear into someone I have been reminded to look at what made us friends in the first place. What made me want to extend my hand and heart and say that I'm that persons friend?
It sounds really corny but it sure has kept me from ruining a couple of friendships. From saying things that cannot be taken back and can tear down to the core of a persons soul. I have been guilty of shoving my foot into my mouth so far that it would take a crowbar to remove it and I have regretted those instances years later. But I try and learn from those times... sometimes successfully and other times not so... those are the hardest times.
When something happens to you or your friends, look back for a moment and pull from your memory something so positive about that person that you cant see yourself NOT being a part of that persons life in the future. By the time you have done this, perhaps you will have simmered down a bit and wont be quite so mad at that person.
If you HAVE to choose anger as a way to resolve your issues, be sure you have facts right and that you have room for reconcilliation. DONT sling around threats.. DONT use your words to cut so deep that you can never apologize enough to take away the hurt.... no argument is worth that! You were friends for a reason.. you cared enough once for a reason... remember that.
Please, remember that before you hurt those you love. I have made this mistake too often not to know what Im saying... but if I can remind someone then my mistakes will be worth the price I've paid before you.