friends,foes, family and other life forms
*sigh* ok, so the new year is starting off rocky to say the very least. It seems to me that people arent playing very nice in their shared sandboxes and arent willing to just take their toys and leave or to share and be big boys and girls.
I'm no expert when it comes to handling roomies but I do know that EVERYONE has to own up to the areas that they habitate within the four walls of home regardless of whose home it REALLY is because if everyone doesnt do their part to work together sooner or later everything crashes down around them.
Im not talking about cleaning, Im not talking about bills and who owes what when. Im talking about learning to live with each other like youre family and not being hostile to one another. Im talking about playing nice and owning up to ones mistakes, realizing that people have their faults and that the ones they live with sometimes need a little TLC to get through the rough patches.
COMMUNICATION is a HUUUUUUUUUUGE part of living together. You would expect at least that much from your partner, wouldnt you expect it of those who live in the same house as you?? I personally am not a mind reader and I dont know of any or at least Im not aware of them. That being said, if you dont speak to one another and you dont communicate with one another about what needs to be done, how is that person going to know??
Going with the whole communication deal... you need to make your own needs and feelings known in order for others to be aware of them. Going around slamming things, ranting to others about the unfairness of it all and wondering exactly where things went wrong isnt going to help matters IF YOU DONT TALK TO THE PARTY YOURE ANGRY AT!!!!
I cannot tell you how many times people have ranted and raved about someone else and if you ask them if they have bothered to confront the person... they tell you no... why not?? I dunno... yeah, that resolves everything... so the anger builds up, the distrust builds up and when it finally comes to a blow, no one can survive it.... all because of lack of communication which had it been used when it was a small problem wouldnt have caused this HUGE blow out now!
I'm saddened by the whole thing, Im upset that it has to reach boiling point where finger pointing and angry words are used to express how one feels about things.... what happened to friends?? What happened to family??? And how did everyone become enemies??
This isnt how I wanted 2008 to begin... this isnt how I wanted ANY YEAR to start off.... so what will become of the next 51 weeks??? Lets hope it improves because living like this is hell!!
I'm no expert when it comes to handling roomies but I do know that EVERYONE has to own up to the areas that they habitate within the four walls of home regardless of whose home it REALLY is because if everyone doesnt do their part to work together sooner or later everything crashes down around them.
Im not talking about cleaning, Im not talking about bills and who owes what when. Im talking about learning to live with each other like youre family and not being hostile to one another. Im talking about playing nice and owning up to ones mistakes, realizing that people have their faults and that the ones they live with sometimes need a little TLC to get through the rough patches.
COMMUNICATION is a HUUUUUUUUUUGE part of living together. You would expect at least that much from your partner, wouldnt you expect it of those who live in the same house as you?? I personally am not a mind reader and I dont know of any or at least Im not aware of them. That being said, if you dont speak to one another and you dont communicate with one another about what needs to be done, how is that person going to know??
Going with the whole communication deal... you need to make your own needs and feelings known in order for others to be aware of them. Going around slamming things, ranting to others about the unfairness of it all and wondering exactly where things went wrong isnt going to help matters IF YOU DONT TALK TO THE PARTY YOURE ANGRY AT!!!!
I cannot tell you how many times people have ranted and raved about someone else and if you ask them if they have bothered to confront the person... they tell you no... why not?? I dunno... yeah, that resolves everything... so the anger builds up, the distrust builds up and when it finally comes to a blow, no one can survive it.... all because of lack of communication which had it been used when it was a small problem wouldnt have caused this HUGE blow out now!
I'm saddened by the whole thing, Im upset that it has to reach boiling point where finger pointing and angry words are used to express how one feels about things.... what happened to friends?? What happened to family??? And how did everyone become enemies??
This isnt how I wanted 2008 to begin... this isnt how I wanted ANY YEAR to start off.... so what will become of the next 51 weeks??? Lets hope it improves because living like this is hell!!