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[end_of_hope]

Oh hai.

I'm new to this community.
My husband and I are both 20. We've been married for 16 months.
He joined in August. He left a few days ago for Basic training.Then we'll be moving to SC for A-school/Nuke school.

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[berrygirl]

my fiance has changed alot (although he won't tell you he has)
he's grown up alot, become a lot more responsible
he seems quicker to anger, before he went in he was really easy going
but alot of things annoy him now

it's hard our relationship has grown alot since he joined
we've had to work around alot of things we weren't sure how to deal with
and I can see why the military divorce rate is high
I think you need to be really open minded
you need to have great communication skills

It wasn't hard at first but now it is, and it only seems to get worse
best of luck

[losile]

Communicate, communicate, communicate

[willowly]

I knew my husband for a few years before he joined, and I don't think he has changed much at all. I suppose he is a bit more mature and responsible, so really the changes have only been positive. Though I'm sure it affects everyone differently, and my husband joined when he was a bit older (25) than many of the new recruits and just isn't the type to be easily influenced so I really haven't had anything to worry about.

I really suggest that you don't let yourself worry, or even think about, infidelity. It does happen of course, but if you trust him and have a strong relationship the worst thing you can do is act like you don't trust him and start to act jealous and crazy. It is really hard being separated for a long time, but letting any doubts or horror stories get to you will only make it harder.

[end_of_hope]

I won't act crazy or jealous. Lol. I know that scares them away. Besides, I'm not a jealous person

[2natraps]

To answer your questions first

[end_of_hope]

Thank you so much for this.
It really helped me. I feel SO much better now. I will probably write him once a day.

Thankfully I already knew not to count down the days.

I do trust him. The only thing I'm worried about is that they are now letting women in subs. It makes me nervous. But who wouldn't?

Before he left he sneaked called/text me while waiting to go to the base and driving to the base. So hopefully he'll write me as much as yours did.

I've been working a lot lately, it makes time go by faster.
I plan on quitting my job(Because I don't really need it anymore now) and going back to San Diego where all my friends and family are until he's finished.
I know that will make time go really really fast. I'm looking forward to it.

You know, I bet your friend and my husband are in the same room, lol.
My husband left for boot camp on the 7th and arrived on the 8th. Did you friend do the same thing?

[babygirl062604]

My husband and I have been with the navy 4 1/2 years and been through 2 deployments and are currently going through our 3rd.. like the ladies said .. make sure you communicate.. and things will be fine.. come and join www.asailorsanchor.com and talk to lots of other navy wives all over the world.. there is a lot of support there.

Pamela

[lionheartedgirl]

It's good that you haven't felt too bad, I wish I could say that much, lol. I'm a new navy wife, so I don't have much advice but my husband was a nuke, and there's about 2 other wives here that also have nuke husbands.

I didn't notice any negative differences in personality, all changes were good; he grew up, and he became more responsible. It can be difficult, but it becomes easier to deal with sometimes.

Anyways, welcome and good luck =]