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[end_of_hope]

Oh hai.

I'm new to this community.
My husband and I are both 20. We've been married for 16 months.
He joined in August. He left a few days ago for Basic training.Then we'll be moving to SC for A-school/Nuke school.

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[willowly]

I knew my husband for a few years before he joined, and I don't think he has changed much at all. I suppose he is a bit more mature and responsible, so really the changes have only been positive. Though I'm sure it affects everyone differently, and my husband joined when he was a bit older (25) than many of the new recruits and just isn't the type to be easily influenced so I really haven't had anything to worry about.

I really suggest that you don't let yourself worry, or even think about, infidelity. It does happen of course, but if you trust him and have a strong relationship the worst thing you can do is act like you don't trust him and start to act jealous and crazy. It is really hard being separated for a long time, but letting any doubts or horror stories get to you will only make it harder.

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I won't act crazy or jealous. Lol. I know that scares them away. Besides, I'm not a jealous person

[2natraps]

To answer your questions first

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Thank you so much for this.
It really helped me. I feel SO much better now. I will probably write him once a day.

Thankfully I already knew not to count down the days.

I do trust him. The only thing I'm worried about is that they are now letting women in subs. It makes me nervous. But who wouldn't?

Before he left he sneaked called/text me while waiting to go to the base and driving to the base. So hopefully he'll write me as much as yours did.

I've been working a lot lately, it makes time go by faster.
I plan on quitting my job(Because I don't really need it anymore now) and going back to San Diego where all my friends and family are until he's finished.
I know that will make time go really really fast. I'm looking forward to it.

You know, I bet your friend and my husband are in the same room, lol.
My husband left for boot camp on the 7th and arrived on the 8th. Did you friend do the same thing?

[2natraps]

It's true they're letting women on subs now, but the deal with that is (from what I've read so far) is that they are STARTING to, there is a big process to go through and within 2 years times they are only allowing female officers on boomers only.

Enlisted and officers are not allowed to fraternize. They even have seperate sections for housing for officers and enlisted.

That being said, I don't think you have to worry about that.
I wouldn't worry about women being on subs anyway. All they do is work work work.

Besides, he'll be in SC for about 2 years for his training anyway. By the time he graduates his NUC school you and him and everything will be different. You'll have two years to adjust to Navy life better.

Seems like they may be part of the same division! There would be a pretty good chance. How cool would that be!?

I'd start working out your graduation plans now, too. I had a hard time figuring out all of that hotel/rental car stuff.

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Oh my gosh yes.
I already started making plans.
I plan on buying a car and packing next month when I quit my job.
I want to work as much as possible before I go and visit my family in CA. I'm going before he graduates and arriving a few days earlier.

I have to make arrangement for my animals, get rid of my salt water fish.
I have no idea how to even start on the salt water tank.

I'm so nervous about him graduating, lol.

I'm glad you told me about the subs. I am less nervous now. Thanks.
Also about the letters too. I am so glad I can write every day! I'm so excited!

Whats your friends name? I can ask in my letter.
My husbands name is Chris D.