Dad.
I'm not really sure how to feel about any situation anymore.
I've been noticing lately that Anton doesn't really treat Cambria like his own child. He disciplines her like she is, but he always seems to be irritated with her. He never really spends any time loving on her, or telling her she's beautiful like I do.
I asked him to get up with her this morning so that I could sleep in- which I only do maybe once a month. He got up with her, but when she followed him into the bathroom he got upset with her and told her to leave him alone and go watch T.V. The thing is, I deal with her following me into the bathroom all the time. She's just happy to see you, and wants to spend time with you, and you're telling her to go away?
So, I got up, and she was sitting in front of the T.V. with a dry bowl of cheerios, and he was on the computer. Whenever we spend time at my mom and dad's, he spends most of his time on the computer playing games. It made me upset because this is about the 20th time I've woken up (before from small naps), and Cambria was alone watching T.V. and he was playing video games.
So, I walked in and tried to talk to him about it. I told him that if he didn't want to be a parent to Cambria that I needed him to tell me. I told him that I felt like he acts as a parent when it comes to disciplinary needs, but that I don't feel that he spends a whole lot of quality time with her. He doesn't read to her, or love on her, or cuddle her like I do, or even spend any time trying to get a good meal in her tummy.
When I said all that he just responded "Are you KIDDING me?" I said, "No, I'm not." To which I got the response "I'm going to go have a cigarette."
We haven't talked about it since. He left me sitting alone in the computer room. He left the room when I felt like I was trying to talk to him about a really important subject- my child. Not to mention we have another one on the way, and what if he treats Everton like a little prince and continues treating Cambria like she's Cinderella?
If he won't even talk to me about this I'm not sure what to do. I thought I had a partner that I could communicate with, and would understand when I tried to talk to them about parenting. Apparently that is not more important than a cigarette.
Wow.
I've been noticing lately that Anton doesn't really treat Cambria like his own child. He disciplines her like she is, but he always seems to be irritated with her. He never really spends any time loving on her, or telling her she's beautiful like I do.
I asked him to get up with her this morning so that I could sleep in- which I only do maybe once a month. He got up with her, but when she followed him into the bathroom he got upset with her and told her to leave him alone and go watch T.V. The thing is, I deal with her following me into the bathroom all the time. She's just happy to see you, and wants to spend time with you, and you're telling her to go away?
So, I got up, and she was sitting in front of the T.V. with a dry bowl of cheerios, and he was on the computer. Whenever we spend time at my mom and dad's, he spends most of his time on the computer playing games. It made me upset because this is about the 20th time I've woken up (before from small naps), and Cambria was alone watching T.V. and he was playing video games.
So, I walked in and tried to talk to him about it. I told him that if he didn't want to be a parent to Cambria that I needed him to tell me. I told him that I felt like he acts as a parent when it comes to disciplinary needs, but that I don't feel that he spends a whole lot of quality time with her. He doesn't read to her, or love on her, or cuddle her like I do, or even spend any time trying to get a good meal in her tummy.
When I said all that he just responded "Are you KIDDING me?" I said, "No, I'm not." To which I got the response "I'm going to go have a cigarette."
We haven't talked about it since. He left me sitting alone in the computer room. He left the room when I felt like I was trying to talk to him about a really important subject- my child. Not to mention we have another one on the way, and what if he treats Everton like a little prince and continues treating Cambria like she's Cinderella?
If he won't even talk to me about this I'm not sure what to do. I thought I had a partner that I could communicate with, and would understand when I tried to talk to them about parenting. Apparently that is not more important than a cigarette.
Wow.